Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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No. I'm simply saying that I can't put myself in the scenario you presented and draw any conclusions from it because it wouldn't happen. I would not cheat.
We might have gotten divorced even if xh hadn't had the affair.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
That was my point.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
WH-HAT!?!?!?!?
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Do you fully and happily support alimony for sahms at a time when many wohms are being denied alimony because they work and have an income? I don't think any wohm has happily supported alimony for sahms under those circumstances. The OP mentioned alimony as punishment, and that's been consistent with the notion that sahms are getting alimony while wohms do not.
(I also disagree that wohms will necessarily be denied alimony, but that hasn't been fully addressed here.)
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ITA.
But isn't the next logical step in your earlier argument (working affords protection in case of divorce) that all women should work?
We don't know if he agreed to the move away because he knew she'd go anayway, or because he was an unloving crappy father (although none of her posts say this), or to simply stop the fighting of the divorce. That he agreed to the move speaks nothing of the morality of taking your kids away from a loving, nonabusive parent just because you can and want to do so. The kids needs (such as a father) come far above her desires to live in the state where she has family.
They chose as a family to go to AZ. They chose as a family to have her work less. Seems she wants to be compensated when the family choices cost her money (through alimony payments) but she doesn't want to accept the consequences of her other choices, like agreeing that all would live in AZ. I agreed to move to TX for dh, since his family is here. I have no realtives here. But I wouldn't dream of taking our kids and moving states away if we divorced, because kids deserve to have their parents in their lives, daily if at all possible.
It is what any loving parent should want to provide, whether married to the other parent or not.
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