Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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To some people it is.
I wouldn't have birthed kids without being married, but I might have adopted some -- in fact, I fostered for awhile before DH and I even met. I wouldn't have married DH if he weren't open to having kids, but I really married him because I can't imagine not having him in my life.
Yes, we'll have to agree to disagree. You can't see working that much as not being selfish because you don't do it. You have no idea what it is like.
Trying reading the subthread of posts to whcih TM replied an you will understand what she was saying and why.
Example: our close friends T & M, M is a SAHM and T is an attorney. T leaves the house at 6:30 every morning and is home by 5:30. Works a 10+ hour day at work (and does some work on the bus on his commute), then does an hour or two at home after their boys are asleep. T does a half day on Saturday, usually really early in the morning, either from home or from work. He spends dinner and evenings with the boys and most of the weekend. Once a week M takes the boys in town and they have a long family lunch together. Averages out to 60-70 hours a week working.
For some people, this may not be enough time for a parent to have with their children. But for T & M, it works like a charm. They are a wonderful family and I love their boys. I'd never call T a selfish person, he's one of the most generous, caring men I know.
For many people, saying they "won't do it" will get them a severance check and a handshake on the way out the door.
All marriages do not have such one-up-manship. It's certainly not in mine. I'm not saying we don't have any problems. But it doesn't necessarily follow that a SAHM is less likely to be an equal, as you said before. My DH and I are nice to each other because that's the people we are. I'm not nice (and he's not into one-up-manship like you seem to be) just because I'm a SAHM. If anything, he puts me on a pedestal and is lucky to have me. That's going to be my attitude until I'm served with divorce papers.
oh boy. I was all set to be done with this thread ... but calling me a liar makes me jump back in.
<<(Obviously she was lying when she said he has never supported her, so that calls into question her other posts as well.) >>
There's a big difference between receiving some support and being supported by. I receive support from a
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