Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Nothing against fast food...but many of us who work have discovered exactly the same thing...the job may not provide employee of the month plaques or any sort of replacement kudos...but we've discovered what it is that really matters...so we can go on...anyway...
I do think there are no small number of women who don't like the whole job thing as adults because they discover exactly that - the kudo-plaque thing is not a big part of the adult working world. Probably alot of men in the same boat.
She is set apart from the others by this comment:
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her answer: I support spousal support on a case-by-case basis. I don't oppose it or support it in general.
I would say that lauren is far from equal to the two or three or how ever many is totally opposed or totally for spousal support.
I think it's true in situations other than work status too. Take this scenario: let's say my dh decides that he wants a career change. He wants to be a writer. He now has no income. I'd like him to have a paying job but I understand that this is his dream. So I increase my work hours so that he can pursue his writing. I am pretty sure that he'd be thankful to me.
Do you truly work to support YOURSELF? I doubt it. In our case the money earned by the adults is used to provide for all five individuals. If the family wants (or needs) more money then two adults need to work to support all five individuals.
Although I have worked for a majority of my adult life I have never worked to support myself. I have worked to support our family, including times when dh was not working, and times dh was working but not drawing a salary. I truly cannot understand the need to hold each earner out separately from the family.
Jenna
My sister also lobbies for the budget equivalent of the all-inclusive vacation--i.e. visiting our parents, where my sis gets to be a kid again and our mom takes care of meals and much of the child care.
And yeah, most of the time they come up with various compromises that make both of them happy.
Dana
Jenna
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