Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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You know what?
Laura
With divorce, when there are hard feelings and anger and no more love between the parties, fostering a closeness between parent and long-distant child gets much more difficult. Have you seen the statistics about drug use, alcohol use, teen pregnancy and other teenaged problems for children, especially girls, who grow up in homes without their fathers? It is even worse for kids who don't have a father at least near-by.
There is a lot to be said for physical presence. Physical presence *does* make a huge difference.
Well, let's call it deception.
Have you seen the statistics about drug use, alcohol use, teen pregnancy and other teenaged problems for children, especially girls, who grow up in homes without their fathers? It is even worse for kids who don't have a father at least near-by.
Al the child needs a "male role-model" who cares for her just as much as the father.
Interestingly, with our current visa situations it would actually be legally nearly impossible for dh and I to stay in the same country together, let alone the same city, in the event of a divorce: dh has no US green card or other working visa for the US and my working visa in Europe depends on my being married to him (I have the same right as an EU member to work in Sweden, but only because I am married to an EU member...if dh and I were to divorce I, as an American, would have no right to a working visa anywhere in Europe and dh, as a European, would have a very hard getting a working visa for the US). Luckily, we are very very far from the possibility :-), but I am also working on getting Swedish citizenship because I don't want to build a life in a country I could be thrown out of should anything happen to dh or our marriage.
Laura
O.K. I am opening old wounds here but my parents divorced when I was 13 (for the above mentioned adultery). My father chose to move from us. He was already emotionally distance but decided to put distance between us. I had to travel to see him (he moved a hour away). He would not come to see me. It is not always the mother's fault that the father doesn't sustain his fathering role. Sometimes people are losers and they become parents.
Everything you said about effects are very true. I still live with some of actions from seeking love in the wrong places. I do wonder what my life would have been with an interested father. I don't know..
If I remember correctly, Hollie posted recently that her ex did not want the kids for the whole visitation. He is choosing to not spend time with them...not her.
Kristi
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