Do 2 incomes always mean less hours?

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Do 2 incomes always mean less hours?
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 11:35am
By WOH, does your dh spend less time at work and more time at home? How many hours per week, would you say, has DH had to work less with the added income? Would your dh be willing to change jobs just to make this a reality?

In our situation here, by WOH I would not able to change my dhs hours at work. In order to do that, he would have to change his job. Even if I WOH FT, my financial contribution would still be less in one week than he can make in two days.

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 11:41am
That's hard to say. DH is self-employed, so he makes his own hours. He's off one day during the week, but works some Saturdays. DH's hours are dependent on how busy he is. Lately he's been spending a lot more hours at his office due to his increased patient load. When he had more patients, he works more hours. That's what's changed his time with our boys. And they're all feeling it, too, especially DS1. He and DH are very, very close. Since DH has been working more hours, he gets home later at night and the boys don't get as much time with him as they used to.

Hopefully when DH expands his office and hires more help, he'll be able to get more done in the work day and will be home at more decent hours again.

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 11:50am
Wouldn't change my dh's hours. Mainly because he's an exempt salaried employee and it doesn't really matter to his income how much time he spends in the office. He has to get the work done .. if it takes 40 hours a week or 60 hours a week. Dh travels a lot for his job. currently he's in DC for a week. Then he's home for two weeks, then back to DC for another week. And he spent last week in Illinois.

But when he's in town, he has great hours. He leaves the house before the kids are even awake and then he gets off before I do, picks the kids up and has them settled in etc by the time I get home. And he has every other Friday off.

For dh to change his hours, he would have to change jobs. And there's no way he could make the kind of money he is now by working a job that had less than 40 hours a week involved.

My WOH status is as much for my sanity as it is for income. Yeah, we need the income right now, but we need me to be happy more.

Hollie

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 12:01pm
My dh is salary.He works 40 hours regardless of anything that I do and at the present time he has to be at work at 9 on Monday mornings for meetings and at 4 every day to take a conference call,whether or not I woh,sah,or stand on my head.He worked 40 before we were married,and before we had kids.He does not wish to work 20 hours a week while I work the other 20 hours.
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:09pm
No, not for us. Dh is self employed in an industry that demands extremely long hours during certain times of the year. That is one of the major reasons why I no longer work ft outside the home. When I did, we literally went 3-4 days at a time without seeing each other and dh went days on end hardly seeing the kids. That is not the recipe for a happy marriage or family. My sah is a major quality of life issue for us.

I do not believe that spousal work status makes any difference in the hours worked for most men. The self-employed, highly specialized professionals (doctor, lawyer, etc) and hourly wage employess simply do not have that kind of flexibility. The argument that the income a wohm brings in makes it possible for the wohd to reduce his hours assumes that money is the sole reason for working. Many people, I would say most entrepreneurs and professionals, find money to be a lesser motivation for working than love for what they do.

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:32pm
Since I work, DH doesn't have to do the private practice thing. He can and did choose a job that has regular hours because I work.

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:41pm
My working does make life easier on the financial front. My income is not technically needed for us to pay bills, etc. But it does give us the $$ for things like vacations, new vehicles, shopping trips, etc. My income also contributes towards college funds for my children.

My dh works a little less now, usually 50 hrs a week as opposed to 60 when I sah. Of course, when he was a single dad to dd he was working 70 hrs a week just to survive, so he feels almost *part time* at 50 hrs! He's gotten several very substantial raises in the last few years too, which helps as well.

Because dh works shiftwork however, I will say that the time he spends with the kids doesnt change much no matter what his hours. Even when he works a 6 day workweek, he is home by 3pm. Or if he works ot he plans it so he goes in early before the kids are even up, and he is still home at a decent time.

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:53pm
My DH works 40 plus hours aweek. He doesnt get paid for any overtime he puts in. We could not afford for me not to work. He would have to get a 2nd job and I am not sure that would cover it. Also it would be difficult for him to work a 2nd job due to the hours he works at his 1st job.

My salary is 2/3 of his and I work 34 hours a week.
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:56pm
Same with me, my DH would HAVE to get a second job if I SAH.

Our neighbors have a DS the same age as mine and the mom SAH. Her DH works three jobs to support them....I think that would be us too if I didn't work!

Ana
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 3:04pm
Dh's hours are independent of my work status. He is an attorney in his own practice (with a partner). How many hours he works is dependent on how busy they are and the discovery/court schedule of his cases. In March he was out of town most of the month. In April he is less busy so he has been home more. Being self employed he needs to do whatever needs doing whether it relates to running his business or servicing his clients.

When I worked it was the same. There was nothing about my job that allowed dh to work fewer hours and vice versa.

Jenna

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 4:18pm
Whether I WOH, SAH or work PT, DH would be working the same hours. He is in sales. His hours vary, but he's usually home before 5pm, except on Wednesdays when he's in the office and doesn't get home until 7pm.

Some days, he'll surprise us and get home at 1 or 2pm because an appt. has canceled. I love those days.

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