Do children need preschool?

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Do children need preschool?
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Sun, 02-21-2010 - 8:52am
I'm sure some do, but my question is more can a child with a SAHM go without preschool and be successful in pre-K and kindergarten. Say for example a set of twins who have each other all day, and 4 older siblings of various ages who have friends over a lot, and who get some other interaction with similar aged children outside the home for free play a couple of days a week, with an educated mother able to teach the basics of numbers, letters, good behavior, etc. Is preschool a must have for all children, or can a good SAHM skip it? What would a SAHM need to do at home in order to successfully prepare her children for either pre-K or kindergarten without sending the kids to preschool?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 10:34am

I think it depends on the child and the parents....


<< What would a SAHM need to do at home in order to successfully prepare her children for either pre-K or kindergarten without sending the kids to preschool?>>


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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 1:30pm

I disagree that NO child needs preschool. I would agree that the average child does not need preschool, it is just an nice activity for them and may or may not help them general in academics.

But the children that are not doing any of the things that you list, play dates, story time, library etc, because their parents for whatever reason can't or don't do that stuff. Preschool can be great for them. It's better than sitting in front of the tv or watching video games or whatever these kids are doing.

And then for the children that have very poor speech skills and/or need early child education for other reasons, just to get them caught up to other children so they aren't so far behind--you might be mentioning that in your post if you mean Early INtervention for EIC, I'm not sure.

Every year in kindy classes all over, there kids who are not learning these skills along with the rest of the class even with extra one on one help with the teacher or a TA.

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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 4:56pm

Actually, I think the problem at that particular school wasn't that they didn't understand child development but that they couldn't stand up to pushy parents who thought the earlier things were taught, the more brilliant their children would

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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 6:35pm
To me it's still preschool, no matter what you call it, but I understand what you're saying. Our district actually calls it ECE rather than pre-K.
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Wed, 02-24-2010 - 12:12am
Yes children do need preschool. Its very necessary if they are to develop cognitively. Unless you plan on teaching your child, well thats different. You get a copy of the curriculum, of what the child should learn at that stage and you ensure you have the necessary materials. Freestyle teaching won't work you have to ensure the child is grasping the material. The only thing that a child might miss out on is interacting with other kids at school. Which is also good for social development.
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Wed, 02-24-2010 - 1:30am

Yes children do need preschool. Its very necessary if they are to develop cognitively. Unless you plan on teaching your child, well thats different. You get a copy of the curriculum, of what the child should learn at that stage and you ensure you have the necessary materials. Freestyle teaching won't work you have to ensure the child is grasping the material.

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Wed, 02-24-2010 - 2:28am
LOL, sure, sure.

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Wed, 02-24-2010 - 1:06pm

I think kids definately do NOT need preschool, especially if the parent or day care is very committed to making sure the kids get lots of different experiences and exposures. I think the "socialization" aspect of school has been way over played by our society. So long as the kids are getting out of the house and interacting with lots of other people they are fine.

That said, I LOVE preschool for my son. He is so demanding and exhausting, its so nice to have time to focus on my younger son. Plus, since I'm preggo I don't always have the energy to think up and design a bunch of activities for him to do. His teacher is really great and I really like her lesson plans. Next year when he is in the Pre-k program I may not like it as much because I think it is too focused on academics, but we will see.

So, no, so long as the parents are engaged with the kids, they don't NEED preschool. I do think it is a really nice extra to have.

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Wed, 02-24-2010 - 4:54pm
Now, come on. How's a toddler supposed to get into Harvard someday if all he gets is some slipshod "freestyle" teaching now?

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