Do Dads Want Moms to Work?

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Do Dads Want Moms to Work?
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Fri, 03-15-2013 - 6:36pm

Pew Research Center has come out with a new study on working parents: 

The number of moms who say they would prefer to work full-time is 37 percent, up from from 21 percent in 2007. The economy may be to blame, according to the report: Of those struggling financially, 47 percent wanted to work full time, compared to only 31 percent of those living with less financial pressure.

Yet a whopping 45 percent of moms and 41 percent of dads say the best thing for a young child is to have a mother who works part-time. Only 16 percent of dads said having a mom who works full time is best for children. So moms want to be working more, but a large number of parents feel that it's not best for the kids. 

Read more: http://www.ivillage.com/pew-research-center-releases-report-working-moms-and-dads/6-a-527711

They also found that both parents are stressed when it comes to balancing work and family, regardless of who works more hours or has more responsiblity at home.  Maybe the dads are stressed because with the moms working, they have to take on more responsibiility?  

Do you think their conclusions are accurate, that moms want to be working more but majority of parents feel that it's not the best for the kids?  Where do the mother's wants and needs fall into the equation?  

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Fri, 03-15-2013 - 7:08pm

I think there was a similar segment on the today show this morning, Dads feeling equally stressed as working moms, Something like that.  I don't know and I think there's other things to consider:  the costs of childcare, f/t opportunities vs p/t, and whether a family can afford a SAHP to begin with.  I know for us SAH was on the table as soon as we started having kids, I teetered with it but the reasons for SAH was never b/c we couldn't afford childcare, I took my time feeling out opportunities all the while enjoying the choice to be at home with my kids, DH likes it this way too and although he won't admit it I think he'd rather I manage things at home to splitting things down the middle if we both WOH, It really is less stress on him.  I go to school now and some of my class time overlaps with afternoons my kids are home from school, I'm lucky they're at the ages they are b/c I seriously doubt I would have been ready for this had they still been babies. 

 


 


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Sat, 03-16-2013 - 12:10am

Cmmelissa wrote:
<p>Pew Research Center has come out with a new study on working parents: </p><p><em>The number of moms who say they would prefer to work full-time is 37 percent, up from from 21 percent in 2007. The economy may be to blame, according to the report: Of those struggling financially, 47 percent wanted to work full time, compared to only 31 percent of those living with less financial pressure.</em></p><p><em>Yet a whopping 45 percent of moms and 41 percent of dads say the best thing for a young child is to have a mother who works part-time. Only 16 percent of dads said having a mom who works full time is best for children. So moms want to be working more, but a large number of parents feel that it's not best for the kids. </em></p><p>Read more: <span>http://www.ivillage.com/pew-research-center-releases-report-working-moms-and-dads/6-a-527711</span></p><p>They also found that both parents are stressed when it comes to balancing work and family, regardless of who works more hours or has more responsiblity at home.  Maybe the dads are stressed because with the moms working, they have to take on more responsibiility?  </p><p>Do you think their conclusions are accurate, that moms want to be working more but majority of parents feel that it's not the best for the kids?  Where do the mother's wants and needs fall into the equation?  </p>

My DH doesn't want me to work. He's relatively supportive of me going to grad school, but honestly? He'd just as soon I SAH forever or find part time work in my undergrad field. I've been home part time since 1999 (when we started TTC). I started SAH FT in late 2001. So I've been home for almost 12 years--it's our status quo. And we don't need the money. But I'd like to do something. I don't ever intend to work FT again. But with the kids in school, I'd like to do something...

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Mon, 03-18-2013 - 1:39pm
Going from WOH, to SAH and now WAH, it does make a difference on the stress level in some areas, especially when it comes to household management.

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Mon, 04-01-2013 - 5:51pm
I read these survey results as people who either truly want to have it all, or people who understand they can't always have what they want but answered honestly anyway. I want to go back and work on my doctorate. But I won't. Not yet. Right now being as available as possible for my children comes first, but in just another decade they will be grown and just about gone and then I'll have 30 or so years to go back to school, and start yet another career. Not every parent is willing to sacrifice wants for family, however, but I imagine that is why the numbers look the way they do.
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Sat, 04-06-2013 - 4:46pm

Are the conclusions accurate? Probably not. I think a lot of dads would prefer the mom to have an income, but won't admit it. Yet, when the moms do go back to work, the dads are very stressed because a lot of things no longer get done.