Do i continue working, or give in and quit?

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Do i continue working, or give in and quit?
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Tue, 08-28-2012 - 5:51am

I'm currently living in India. Due to the time difference between the US and India, those of us that work for US based companies, work night shift. Currently my shift is 5:45 pm - 3:15 am. I see no issue with it. I've been working it long enough and I'm adjusted fine. However.....Indian doctors don't think women are cut out for night shift and the first thing they tell females (well, anyone really) is that due to health concerns, they need to get off the night shift. Naturally my doctor told me the same at my very first appt. She says it's due to not getting proper rest and eating on time, which is crap because I sleep just fine (generally) and eat three times a day. Additionally I'm considered to be high risk because of my age and my medical background (no concrete proof of any prior pregnancies, mc's etc - it's a long story I'll save for another day).

The problem is, my husband is adament I quit my job if my employer can't give me a day shift position. My employer can't, and my husband knows that very well (we met while working for the same company). Additionally my employer is paying me a mint, by Indian standards and they're sponsoring the visa that allows me to be here with my husband. Furthermore, I don't want to quit. I'll go mad within the first week and I'm sure be way more stressed out then if I was at the office. We've discussed me staying with his family (remember - this is India) until the baby's born, but as much as I adore our weekly visits, cannot imagine a more vivid version of my own personal hell.

Please don't get me wrong, in no way am I saying I'm putting my job or my salary before the health of my child. What I'm asking is - what is the real risk? Should I just clam up and quit? On a selfish note, I know if something does happen and I lose the baby, my husband and his family might harbor some resentment which will just pile ontop of the resentment I already have for myself in such a situation. Is it better just to do everything the doctor says in order to be on the safe side, that way if something does happen, at least I can say I did everything per Dr's orders?

Thanks in advance for sharing your thoughts.

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Registered: 12-17-1998
Sat, 01-26-2013 - 6:53am

I worked day shift.  I didn't sleep well at night when pregnant, and after the children came...well, they kept me up all night!  I really think it is a meaningless arguement.  Fetus's don't know day time from night time, and neither do babies! If you are comfortable and happy, so will your baby be! The real issue will be after the baby arrives, you may not want to work.  It is nice you have a supportive Husband and his family if you arrive at the conclusion that you really can't bare to be away from your little one, like I did 24 years ago...I will soon retire from a 30 year career. I never had the finacial or emotional support from my Husband to quit work. It is a good place to have that option if you decide to stay home!

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Tue, 08-28-2012 - 1:04pm

If they are just making general statements about the risks of working the night shift, than I wouldn't quit and would work the job as long as I felt healthy and good.   As long as you are seeing the doctor regularly and know your own limits, than I would think you'd be fine.  I totally wouldn't want to live with my in-laws either, talk about sending me to the loony bin!   If they have legitimate concerns based upon real medical history and not just generalities, than it would be a different story.  It doesn't sound to me like that is the situation though, you say it's because of your age and that it's your first pregnancy.  

If working makes you happy, than it's what they should be focusing on.  It sounds to me like they really want to be in control of all of your actions, and I couldn't live that way.   

Chelsea

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Tue, 08-28-2012 - 7:53am

I work 3rd shift and have since 1997.  Right now my hours are 11:30p to 8am (East Coast US time).  I like my shift, I like my hours and I like being off work during the day.

Yes, people who work shift work are at greater risk of some health issues, BUT it has not yet been established if this is correlation or causation.  For instance, bad diet due to lack of dining options on the night shift might be the cause for higher rates of heart disease and diabetes.

Since your doctor has your baseline for your current health, and since shift work rarely results in shift workers just falling over head suddenly, but rather the health risks are of a chronic nature, why not split the difference?  Stay on your current shift with an agreement to your dh to seek a day shift position should it become available (and discuss this odds of this with your bosses as well or seek another job with day hours), AND make arrangements with your doctor to track your blood pressure, weight and blood glucose numbers.  If you begin to show signs of heart disease (high blood pressure, high cholesterol) or diabetes (high glucose or A1C), then you agree to seek employment off shift work.

And don't forget to be sure to get exercise as well as good sleep.  :smileyhappy:

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