Do people need a reason to SAH?

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Do people need a reason to SAH?
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Sun, 07-18-2010 - 9:28am

This theme was touched upon in another thread and I wanted to discuss it further.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:01am
It is probably easier to maintain in a smaller school district and county government.
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Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:07am
Ours does.
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Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:10am
Ah. You were talking for employment/job listings. Many states publish the exact salaries of CURRENT employees, as part of taxpayer transparency.
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Registered: 07-12-2005
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:14am

"Also, I've noticed that in some groups (moms with lots of small kids especially), people do tend to volunteer that they use WIC. It always makes me slightly uncomfortable. And it makes me fairly angry when the person has just spent five minutes talking about how she could never put her kid in daycare and mothers who do are terrible parents."

I have recently come to the conclusion that the people who have such strong feelings against working mothers/other people using day care have developed those feelings as a defense mechanism. It seems they always come from people who are not in the best financial position for staying home--they are either collecting some form of gov't assistance or their family is sacrificing a lot for them to stay home. At first, I thought they entered parenthood with such strong feelings against working/day care, that they were willing to make whatever sacrifices/accept whatever aid they could to do it. Then I met a few people who started out with "I can't earn enough to cover the cost of day care" or "I really want to stay home, it's the life I always dreamed of", but after a few years of scraping by, or feeling judged, or tension with their spouse, they no longer feel comfortable admitting it is their preference. They start making it out to be the only decent choice by bashing their alternative (working and using day care).

The people I know who have chosen to stay home, and who have the support of their spouse, and are not sacrificing much to do it, tend to have a much more open-minded view of the SAH/WOH choice.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:17am
That's how I use it. It's really nice for that type of thing.
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Registered: 06-24-2008
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:17am
I didn't know that, but I was replying to a post about job listings, so that is what I was originally referring to.

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:18am
That makes a lot of sense.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:20am
I agree completely. I usually just smile and nod. I figure it's not worth it to argue with them.
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 10:25am

I'll jump in here. My boss at the bridal shop is Chinese. Apparently the Chinese has a tradition that all children born in the same generation have names that start with the same letter. So my boss's granddaughters all start with As and the grandsons all start with Rs.

Chris

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 10:47am
Understood. That has been IME though.

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