Do SAHMs ever really "vacation"?

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Do SAHMs ever really "vacation"?
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:06am
What do SAHMs do to feel like they're on vacation, or do you have to take a solo vacation or with friends to truly get a break?

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Registered: 10-08-1998
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 11:25am
When we are on vacation, I still end up doing alot of the same day to day stuff I do at home as a SAHM.
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Registered: 10-12-2006
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 11:47am

"What do SAHMs do to feel like they're on vacation, or do you have to take a solo vacation or with friends to truly get a break?"

I personally enjoy taking family vacations, as opposed to taking vacations from my family. For me, vacations are about getting away from *home*, rather than getting away from my dh and children.

So to answer your question...as a SAHM, my idea of a break/vacation is simply going somewhere new, doing something fun, and changing the usual routine. Something I very much enjoy and prefer to do with my family, as opposed on my own or by myself.

Great question! Looking forward to hearing what other SAHM's have to say :)

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 12:21pm
nothing to add. ita. vacations for us are short breaks away from the grind at home.

 

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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 12:31pm
Well when I SAH for that 14 months I didnt. But that's not a long time.
My friends who are SAHM's (just like my husband) take a vacation with their SO's once a year sans kids. They also occasionally do "girls" weekends.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 1:00pm

I think the key question is "do mothers ever get a "vacation?" -- from what? Mothering? Of course not. You are always a mother if you have kids, just like you are always a wife if you have a husband. You can take a vacation from a "job," but mothering isn't a job, it's a relationship.

Can you get away from the physical work of housekeeping and your daily routine? Of course you can, whether you are a SAHM or a WOHM.

I like getting away with the family, I like getting away by myself, and I think I would like getting away for a few days with just DH, something that hasn't happened in the last fifteen years, but which I hope will happen within the next year.

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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 1:49pm
I have a unique perspective I think b/c every other week I'm childless including the weekend so I do have these wonderfu opportunitiest to get away with Kelly without Liza but I have tos ay I always feel a little fidgety when we do and I keep looking at the families with kids and Kelly practically has to drag me away from browsing the kid clothes if I stop to go shopping anywhere LOL... I treasure our family getaways ina completely different way even though they're a lot more "work' in taking care of Liza. The cool thing is that she's growing up so beautifully that she gets easier and eaiser to travel with every trip and she and Kelly and I have a nice little rythm when we do.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 2:16pm

What does being

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 2:18pm

<<When we are on vacation, I still end up doing alot of the same day to day stuff I do at home as a SAHM.>>


I agree.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 05-09-2007
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 2:29pm
If you have kids, the vacation comes when they turn 18.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 3:03pm

Vacation is one of those funny words with a lot of different meanings. And the purpose of "vacation" varies greatly depending on the individual, wouldn't you say?

I just went on vacation for two weeks with four kids and a husband and it was a lot of work. It was less of a break for me than my ordinary daily summer life as a SAHM. But I'm glad I did it. (Frankly, I need a break after my vacation, if you know what I mean.)

If as a SAHM I really needed a break, I could take a solo vacation, a girls-only vacation, a vacation with my dh, OR I could send the kids to Camp Grandma (or line up other camp situations or childcare scenarios) for a week and just stay home. But I have to tell you that it (sometimes) can be such an ordeal to line up any of those arrangements that, for me, I'd have to really be feeling quite "selfish" to bother to do all that or on the verge of mental instability.

I'm curious what you are getting at with this question. Is going on vacation as a WOHM really vacationing?

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