Do we need a new name for SAHM?

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Do we need a new name for SAHM?
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Fri, 03-29-2013 - 3:37pm

Huffington Post contributor, Lisa Belkin, believes we do:

Let’s ignore for a moment the excellent point that we never seem to feel the need to modify “fathers” with “working” and focus instead on whether it is time to change what we call mothers who do or do not receive a paycheck. Because what we call them simultaneously reflects and alters the way we perceive them.

Read her complete article at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/27/we-need-a-new-word-for-sahm_n_2966251.html

Is there a name for SAHMs that truly describes the contributions they are making?  Do we need to categorize any woman as a SAHM, WAHM or WOHM at all?


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Fri, 03-29-2013 - 3:58pm

I don't think those names are (or should be) intended for use as an all-encompassing of everything any woman is/does/feels/thinks.  They're just descriptive of a woman's employment status.  Do they have value in describing women in most any other context than this sort of debate?  Probably not.

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Fri, 03-29-2013 - 4:27pm

I can think of very few instances aside from this forum where the acronym even comes up.

As previous poster said it is describing ones work status only, and says nothing else about the individual.

"I would suggest that a replacement term has to meet two criteria. First, that it apply to men as well as women. Second, that it include those who are parents and those who are not."

Wouldn't "employed".  "unemployed" fit that criteria. 

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Fri, 03-29-2013 - 4:35pm

My mother didn't work outside the home but she wasn't called a stay at home mom then either, She was Mrs XXX or housewife if it was asked. Homemaker ran it's course for a little while and stay at home mom has only recently started to me, Even my professor calls his wife a stay at home mom then says she runs a day care a couple days a week there too, Oh what fun that can be for debate, Lol. I consider myself a SAHM b/c I don't contribute financially but my kids call me the school sub and their friends know what I do there.  I think a title or category depends on the context by which it is brought up.

 

 

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Fri, 03-29-2013 - 7:20pm
Housewife is an even worse description than SAHM, imo. even more limiting. Hammer said it very well.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Mon, 04-01-2013 - 12:21pm

emptynester2009 wrote:
  I can think of very few instances aside from this forum where the acronym even comes up.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:comic sans ms,sans-serif; font-size:medium">As previous poster said it is describing ones work status only, and says nothing else about the individual.</span></p><p>"I would suggest that a replacement term has to meet two criteria. First, that it apply to men as well as women. Second, that it include those who are parents and those who are not.  "Wouldn't "employed".  "unemployed" fit that criteria. 

I'm fine calling myself unemployed.  My whole life centered on my education and what job I would have.  Until children.  Wink  Again, that doesn't define my life after children ~ unemployed is just part of the picture.  I am many things now that I might not be if employed.

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Mon, 04-01-2013 - 12:48pm

You aren't many other things if you're unemployed.. Get a life, Open your eyes!

J/k my friend, Lol.

 


 


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Mon, 04-01-2013 - 12:57pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>You aren't many other things if you're unemployed.. Get a life, Open your eyes!</p><p>J/k my friend, Lol.</p>

Working, just not paid? ;)

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Registered: 11-13-2011
Sat, 04-06-2013 - 4:39pm

When a name or terminology  constantly has to be changed, it makes it seem as though there were shame or stigma attached to that. There shouldn't be. Stay at home mother should remain stay at home mother. No other term needs to be used.

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Thu, 04-11-2013 - 11:00am

I think it is a useless term that has been overused. I am a mom who works at home full-time, so I 'stay at home,' but I am contributing in numerous ways. My husband is not called a "WOHF," so why should women have to define themselves? All parents are moms or dads regardless of their working status, and we all have the same responsibilities so I do not use the SAHM term overall. (Now my friend who has not worked in 10 years and has two children would argue with me heavily as she feels her 'title' of SAHM earns her a medal because she has no 'days off.' Like a mom with a job does? Such a ridiculous argument.)

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Fri, 04-12-2013 - 12:57pm

I chose to be an at home mother and I am glad I did . My younger son had many minor illness problems when he was little and if I had worked I would have needed a lot of time off and probly have been fired any way. My x-husband was not a hands on father so if I was not there who would have taken care of them? When he was left in charge for just a few hours his idea of lunch was oreo cookies or some other junk ood and then when i got home I had to clean the house because cleaning was not in his mind set. I give a lot of credit to those parents who chose to stay ome and be there for their cihildre, it is a full time job that is highly under rated.