Do women or men make better bosses?

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Do women or men make better bosses?
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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 4:10pm

I realize you can't generalize when it comes to gender, you can find good and bad in both of them.  I was just curious what everyone's experiences have been when it comes to management, if you've have a better experience with a man versus a woman.   

In your experience, who have been the better bosses?  Did your experiences differ when it came to the position you were in, the career path you were on, or whether you had children at the time or were childless?  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:12pm
I have found the same Melissa that men or women who are married and/or have children understand more about your life outside of work being married and having children. I work with a lot of single and/or women who have no kids. I work with 16 people in my branched off dept (15 women, one male) and only 3 of us have children. 7 are married.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:13pm

I have had mostly decent supervisors. I had one supervisor early on who was a mentor type person to me.  I liked her quite a bit.  I have never had a women supervisor who was the catty, crying stab you in the back type. I think the only bad supervisors I can think of right now were in the law firm I worked at.  After working there 7 years and working with a variety of attorneys, my conclusion would be that most attorneys do not make good supervisors, lol.  My direct supervisor the whole time I was there was really nice though and he really was a lot different than any of the attorneys who ever worked for the firm.  The rest of them I would not want for a supervisor!  But it was for a variety of reasons, they had different personalities and 75% of them were men.  At the job I've had for the last 9 years I've had 2 women supervisors.  Again not the catty stab you in the back type that a couple of you have mentioned--they were both pretty different from eachother.  The first one was not warm and fuzzy, but she was always fair and fought for our group to get us the best work conditions possible. 

Since I work in various elementary schools I see many different principals, many of them women.  They are not my direct supervisor but I do notice how they manage and how their style changes/makes the work environment which thus makes the school atmosphere for everybody here--it can really vary.  

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:14pm
My old boss was only training non-mom's to take over her job. Funny thing is the one that finally did when she retired found out she was pregnant after she hired her for the job and it was a HUGE surprise as she never thought she would have kids. She was the worst boss I have ever had.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:39pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Wearing you feelings on your sleeves, crying, not holding back or holding in with any type of emotion. IME women were more like this than the men.

I guess I am lucky to work with professionals, because I have only had two colleagues cry publically in forty plus years in the work force -- one male, one female.  I've worked with a few people with clear anger issues.  Luckily none of them were my bosses.  Otherwise, no unchecked emotion in the workplace.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:45pm
In 25 years I have only seen 1 woman cry (manager). I do think that women wear their feelings on their sleeves though and men will keep more things in and be more "manly".
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:51pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
In 25 years I have only seen 1 woman cry (manager). I do think that women wear their feelings on their sleeves though and men will keep more things in and be more "manly".

Oh, that whole "women wear their emotions on their sleeves" and "manly men don't have emotions" thing is so 1980s.  The women I work with are just as professional as the men.  Thank God.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 2:14pm

I've had the good fortune to have many wonderful bosses, male and female. Out of the management team where I work, 95% are normal human beings who have good and bad qualities, and are very good at their jobs.  A couple of them are really just horrid managers. I talked about one of them in the Helicopter Parent thread a few weeks ago.  The horrid ones are both male and female. I haven't noticed any difference based on gender alone, or based on whether any of them have SAH spouses.

Shaking my head at the things grown women get their panties in a wad about.

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Registered: 02-24-2010
Thu, 03-21-2013 - 2:40pm

I haven't seen too many people cry, most people probably go to the restroom or something.  I will admit I cried one day at work...and it was totally justified!   : )  It's a bit of a funny story, at least it seems so now.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 3:18pm
Define "manly".
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 3:20pm
Yes Bord, the people that I work with are very professional. I just don't see this huge gender gap in management styles.

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