Do women or men make better bosses?

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Do women or men make better bosses?
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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 4:10pm

I realize you can't generalize when it comes to gender, you can find good and bad in both of them.  I was just curious what everyone's experiences have been when it comes to management, if you've have a better experience with a man versus a woman.   

In your experience, who have been the better bosses?  Did your experiences differ when it came to the position you were in, the career path you were on, or whether you had children at the time or were childless?  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 10:34am

As a general rule, I get along with men much better than I do with women, so it's no surprise that my experience has been that men make better bosses.  With one notable exception, the female bosses I've had have been very catty and manipulative, have either made personal/family issues into a competition or, in the case of one childless woman, been very nasty about family and children.  This is the one who, when my son was in the hospital for 3 days, told me that didn't matter and I needed to be there anyway, and that the world would be much better if people didn't have children.  (I always kind of thought it was a shame that her parents didn't subscribe to that belief.)  The same woman, though, would take 2 days off of work to take her cat to a vet in her home town, because she just didn't trust any of the vets here.  She was kind of an idiot.


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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 10:40am
I generally get along with men better too. I guess that's why I've been so surprised at the male managers I've known who were so "emotional", lol. I even compared one to a teenage girl (blush) lol.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 10:45am

lifespeachy wrote:
Bord, it's kind of funny...talking about being emotional. I one case, I worked with (not for) a male manager that was extrememly emotional, and it did effect his job performance. He was whiney and pouty, and his team didn't really respect him. Hubby worked for a guy that was very similar, but it did not effect his job performance.

The guy who supervised my coworkers before I started used to scream and throw tantrums.  It was  . . . um . . . not a very effective management style.  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 10:47am
Emotional like crying Peachy?
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 10:54am
I believe that you were asked to define emotional.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 10:59am
Wearing you feelings on your sleeves, crying, not holding back or holding in with any type of emotion. IME women were more like this than the men.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 11:01am
And in my experience, men and women managers have been equally like this.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 11:31am

jamblessedthree wrote:
LOL, the bosses with SAH spouses were the worst, It must be pretty important to know what the spouses of bosses do...

 

I don't know about SAH spouses, but it's been my experience that bosses with spouses can sometimes be tough to deal with.  It seems that they can lack (or lose) a personal frame of reference wrt an employee's personal time.  The CEO where I currently work is among the world's worst.LOL  He doesn't get that when I'm working 60-70 hours a week, that's 20-30 hours that things are not being done at my house.  And 20-30 fewer hours a week of laundry, cat poop-scooping, bill paying, grocery-getting, vacuuming, etc. really REALLY adds up.  Yes, he works longer hours than I do, but when he gets home all of that has been taken care of by his wife. 


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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 12:28pm

I think I'm going to agree that men who have wives that work understand better how it is for working moms.  At least that's been what my experience has been.

I've had some great women bosses, only one I can think of that was not my cup of tea.  With my last full time job, my direct boss was fantastic.  He was very devoted to his family, his wife was a school teacher, and he was willing to work with me if I had an issue with one of the kids.  When I asked to go part time after I had my youngest, he was just happy to have me come back at all.   His immediate supervisor was a very demanding, outspoken, type A personality.  While he was brilliant at business, not always the best at employee relations :)  I'm not sure how much he's changed since having kids.  His wife doesn't work, so I'm tempted to call and ask!   

I really enjoy the working environmant I'm in now, I work with women who are all moms and understand that sometimes your kids do come first.  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 12:41pm
I had a supervisor once who would not hire young moms at all. The guy was a total a$$, lol.

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