Do women or men make better bosses?

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Do women or men make better bosses?
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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 4:10pm

I realize you can't generalize when it comes to gender, you can find good and bad in both of them.  I was just curious what everyone's experiences have been when it comes to management, if you've have a better experience with a man versus a woman.   

In your experience, who have been the better bosses?  Did your experiences differ when it came to the position you were in, the career path you were on, or whether you had children at the time or were childless?  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:58pm
Flexible how?
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 5:04pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Yes Jam I agree, bosses jobs are not supposed to worry about what you need to do outside of work but to make sure the work is getting done for that job.

Good bosses understand though when outside of work stuff comes up occasionally, especially if the person is an overall excellent employee.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 5:06pm

OK, then.  I won't.  I'll pretend that it's easy to do everything singlehandedly and to do 2 jobs singlehandedly, just so that you won't think i'm whining. @@  It is impossible to do both, though. 

For the record, this wasn't exactly a choice.  The second job was sprung on me and is supposed to be temporary.  I could look for another job except that a) I don't have time since I'm here so much and when I'm not, I am trying to get things under control at home; and b) I like my job, I genuinely love the firm I work for and I don't want to work somewhere else.  It has just been far more demanding of my time than is really healthy.

My situation is actually quite common in the field in which I work.  Very strict deadlines with very short lead times are the norm, and I actually work far less than most people in my industry.  It's a pretty common theme among single people who work in these jobs that their life is pretty much reduced to just work and the people who have other people taking care of things at home don't understand why it's a problem. 


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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 5:08pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
But you have made that choice Lauren to accept that for 6 1/2 years. You really can not complain then that it is nearly impossible to maintain that kind of schedule and maintain a home at the same time.

She can't?  There's some kind of law against whether she can complain or not or do you just get to decide who should be able to complain about which topics?  Even if there is it doesn't matter--I told Lauren just last week that she is allowed to complain whenever she wants to, so please refrain from telling her that they can't complain.  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 5:08pm

geschichtsgal wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">cruisingchick20111</em> wrote:</div>Yes Jam I agree, bosses jobs are not supposed to worry about what you need to do outside of work but to make sure the work is getting done for that job.</blockquote></p><p>Good bosses understand though when outside of work stuff comes up occasionally, especially if the person is an overall excellent employee.</p>

One of the best things a new employer has ever said to me was, "We do understand that you have a life, and that sometimes that means you will have to be away from work." 


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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 5:09pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Chest--So if your boss had an assignment that you need to give to your employees, will you tell him/her that they can't do it because they didn't get their food shopping done that week?

I often take the day off after I go to a professional conference, so that I can do laundry.  I believe I've mentioned this to my boss that that's the reason I'm taking off.  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 5:11pm

  I could not imagine working 80 hour weeks.   The most I have ever worked is 50 and that has only happened a few times.  Working 80 there would be very little time for anything else.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 5:12pm

<So your boss(es) never give you assignments that you might have to give to employees that have a deadline over the work they normally do in a week?>

It is rare, because we plan for everything. I work with development, marketing, sales to understand the business plans and staffing needs throughout the year. The fewer peaks and valleys in our workload, the better planning we did.

< I work in a fast paced job and have things that come up that are not on my normal work day "plate". My bosses management skills do not "suck" because of this.>

I disagree.

<We are driven by the media and customers and there are a lot of rushes to be done almost everyday.>

Customers drive my business, too, but marketing and sales have the responsibility for driving the sales plays, and my job is to analyse the plays and plan for them. Chaos is not a good strategy.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 5:46pm

DH has had completely moronic bosses w/SAH spouses. Having said that, I hear (usually from his work wives) that he is well liked as a boss b/c he is a genuinely nice person. And knowing him--I believe that. So hopefully having a SAHW hasn't made him a spoiled moron.

The worst boss I ever had was a female. She was simply evil. But the best boss I ever had was also a female. So I'm not sure plumbing defines capability, I think it is far more dependent on personality and management skills. 

In one of my volunteer roles, I manage a team of 20 volunteers. While I'm not paid to do it, I still manage 20 people. And I've had to let volunteers go who weren't doing their jobs. I think my team would tell you that I'm fair w/zero BS threshold. Which is also what my kids would tell you about my parenting... 

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 5:52pm
No, he's a bad boss b/c he doesn't realize or respect that she has a life outside of her job, Jam.

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