Do women or men make better bosses?

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Do women or men make better bosses?
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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 4:10pm

I realize you can't generalize when it comes to gender, you can find good and bad in both of them.  I was just curious what everyone's experiences have been when it comes to management, if you've have a better experience with a man versus a woman.   

In your experience, who have been the better bosses?  Did your experiences differ when it came to the position you were in, the career path you were on, or whether you had children at the time or were childless?  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:45pm
In 25 years I have only seen 1 woman cry (manager). I do think that women wear their feelings on their sleeves though and men will keep more things in and be more "manly".
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:39pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Wearing you feelings on your sleeves, crying, not holding back or holding in with any type of emotion. IME women were more like this than the men.

I guess I am lucky to work with professionals, because I have only had two colleagues cry publically in forty plus years in the work force -- one male, one female.  I've worked with a few people with clear anger issues.  Luckily none of them were my bosses.  Otherwise, no unchecked emotion in the workplace.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:14pm
My old boss was only training non-mom's to take over her job. Funny thing is the one that finally did when she retired found out she was pregnant after she hired her for the job and it was a HUGE surprise as she never thought she would have kids. She was the worst boss I have ever had.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:13pm

I have had mostly decent supervisors. I had one supervisor early on who was a mentor type person to me.  I liked her quite a bit.  I have never had a women supervisor who was the catty, crying stab you in the back type. I think the only bad supervisors I can think of right now were in the law firm I worked at.  After working there 7 years and working with a variety of attorneys, my conclusion would be that most attorneys do not make good supervisors, lol.  My direct supervisor the whole time I was there was really nice though and he really was a lot different than any of the attorneys who ever worked for the firm.  The rest of them I would not want for a supervisor!  But it was for a variety of reasons, they had different personalities and 75% of them were men.  At the job I've had for the last 9 years I've had 2 women supervisors.  Again not the catty stab you in the back type that a couple of you have mentioned--they were both pretty different from eachother.  The first one was not warm and fuzzy, but she was always fair and fought for our group to get us the best work conditions possible. 

Since I work in various elementary schools I see many different principals, many of them women.  They are not my direct supervisor but I do notice how they manage and how their style changes/makes the work environment which thus makes the school atmosphere for everybody here--it can really vary.  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:12pm
I have found the same Melissa that men or women who are married and/or have children understand more about your life outside of work being married and having children. I work with a lot of single and/or women who have no kids. I work with 16 people in my branched off dept (15 women, one male) and only 3 of us have children. 7 are married.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 12:41pm
I had a supervisor once who would not hire young moms at all. The guy was a total a$$, lol.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 12:28pm

I think I'm going to agree that men who have wives that work understand better how it is for working moms.  At least that's been what my experience has been.

I've had some great women bosses, only one I can think of that was not my cup of tea.  With my last full time job, my direct boss was fantastic.  He was very devoted to his family, his wife was a school teacher, and he was willing to work with me if I had an issue with one of the kids.  When I asked to go part time after I had my youngest, he was just happy to have me come back at all.   His immediate supervisor was a very demanding, outspoken, type A personality.  While he was brilliant at business, not always the best at employee relations :)  I'm not sure how much he's changed since having kids.  His wife doesn't work, so I'm tempted to call and ask!   

I really enjoy the working environmant I'm in now, I work with women who are all moms and understand that sometimes your kids do come first.  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 11:31am

jamblessedthree wrote:
LOL, the bosses with SAH spouses were the worst, It must be pretty important to know what the spouses of bosses do...

 

I don't know about SAH spouses, but it's been my experience that bosses with spouses can sometimes be tough to deal with.  It seems that they can lack (or lose) a personal frame of reference wrt an employee's personal time.  The CEO where I currently work is among the world's worst.LOL  He doesn't get that when I'm working 60-70 hours a week, that's 20-30 hours that things are not being done at my house.  And 20-30 fewer hours a week of laundry, cat poop-scooping, bill paying, grocery-getting, vacuuming, etc. really REALLY adds up.  Yes, he works longer hours than I do, but when he gets home all of that has been taken care of by his wife. 


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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 11:01am
And in my experience, men and women managers have been equally like this.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 10:59am
Wearing you feelings on your sleeves, crying, not holding back or holding in with any type of emotion. IME women were more like this than the men.

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