Do women or men make better bosses?

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Do women or men make better bosses?
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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 4:10pm

I realize you can't generalize when it comes to gender, you can find good and bad in both of them.  I was just curious what everyone's experiences have been when it comes to management, if you've have a better experience with a man versus a woman.   

In your experience, who have been the better bosses?  Did your experiences differ when it came to the position you were in, the career path you were on, or whether you had children at the time or were childless?  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 10:02am
Bord, it's kind of funny...talking about being emotional. I one case, I worked with (not for) a male manager that was extrememly emotional, and it did effect his job performance. He was whiney and pouty, and his team didn't really respect him. Hubby worked for a guy that was very similar, but it did not effect his job performance.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 9:58am
Jams, the issue that both dh and I have had with bosses with sah spouses have been that they seem to be...ummmm, spoiled, for the lack of a different word. While one would think that an employee with a sahs might have more flexibility, the few that we have encountered were actually much less so. In one office, the job was not a strict 9 to 5 kind of gig, and it required much in the way of flexibility. The mananger with a sahw would rarely flex, he was pretty strict with what hours he would work, and would make himself completely unavailable for phone calls during his "off" hours" (his was kind of an on call position).
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 9:42am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Whose sweeping generlizations?  cchick added IMO which means it is limited to her experience..  Are yours? </p>

Could you explain which generalization I've made in this thread?

Or a generalization I've made where I didn't throw out the possibility that my experience was limited?

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 9:28am
Jambles, Do you think your daughter's principal's competence and ability to get the team to implement the plan has anything to do with his DNA? In other words, is he able to to the job better because he's a man, or could a woman in the same position be equally competent?
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 8:29am

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
I was asked my opinion like everyone and spoke from experience. I have actually have had 8 women bosses in the past 25 years with whom I used my experience from.

You know, This going to sound awful sexist but I'm going to throw it out anyway.  Our school district is filled with more female principals and those ladies are wonderful and sensitive and easy to talk to..  But if I want something done with regard to my kid I'm darn glad it's the guy principal at her middle school that will get that done!  This is my DD whose on an IEP and some of her teachers drag out the accomodations or excuse away some services.  Earlier this year there was a situation about therapy DD wasn't getting and I asked the team how we/they could turn that around.  They played trial an error and I trusted that things would improve, Well it didn't.  At the last meeting I asked that the principal attend the meeting and he did, It was his words over the teacher and even the director of services that rang the necessary bells!  Thank God I asked for him at that last meeting, That guy isn't going to baby my kid or tip toe around her. 

Isn't your boss a man now...  Or no?

 

 

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 8:08am

Whose sweeping generlizations?  cchick added IMO which means it is limited to her experience..  Are yours? 

 

 

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 7:59am
LOL, the bosses with SAH spouses were the worst, It must be pretty important to know what the spouses of bosses do...

 

 

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 7:40am
I had wonderful female managers in my banking years, In one branch we were like family. I don't remember seeing the manager around a lot (her days were filled with meetings and other off-site things!) but she was always back by the end of the day and to help us close. I've not had much experience with male bosses but DH is a boss and he's a pretty good one or so I've been told, He's likely to get less caught up in office drama than women, There was actually an incident last Summer that took the cake but he just told the female employee who had differences with another female employee that they could hash it out in the conference room if it was free, Lol. On another note, "boss" and all the muck that it implies can lead to inflated egos and while I am NOT dismissing that men are full of it women are equally caught up in it if not more and I think that's a measure a good boss from a lousy one too. I had a friend who worked at a call center, she worked her way up to supervisor then department lead/manager, She was on top of the world when she got that job! The office was separated by teams and they often competed against eachother for numbers, She never finished first and she had real problems with that and she'd always tell me that she got stuck with the bad team, blah blah.... Long story short, She doesn't have that job anymore.

 

 

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 6:26am

I am female, and presumably you are too. Do you think that because of that, we would both perform your job exactly the same way? Or my job? 

And I'll re-ask Bord's question: what does emotional mean to you, and do you feel that it hampers with job performance? 

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 3:47am
Peachy, the worst boss I had was a guy. One time he called a staff meeting, and then spent the entire (long) meeting telling us all about his addiction problems, his recent stint in rehab and how all this related to his childhood, tears flowing and everything. Maybe he thought staff=on demand AA meeting?

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