Do women or men make better bosses?

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Do women or men make better bosses?
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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 4:10pm

I realize you can't generalize when it comes to gender, you can find good and bad in both of them.  I was just curious what everyone's experiences have been when it comes to management, if you've have a better experience with a man versus a woman.   

In your experience, who have been the better bosses?  Did your experiences differ when it came to the position you were in, the career path you were on, or whether you had children at the time or were childless?  

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:39pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
Do you think a principal's job is above a director of special ed Bord? I don't know, Maybe it is. Or maybe its b/c he is a guy and had more strength to deal with the issue!

Is this to me Jam?  If it is I'll answer, I didn't see where Bord discussed principal's, but I might have missed that.

Editing-sorry I missed the post about your principal/sped director.  this stupid format is tiring to keep figuring out which posts one has read.  I can't believe Ivillage can't fix that.  

Was the special ed director the director of the whole school district sped department or just the sped director for the middle school?  If it was just the middle school, the prinicpal would be that person's boss.  In our district, if the sped director of the entire district was at a meeting, that would be a pretty high administrator and would have more say over any prinicipal, even if the principal was a man.  :)  The sped director of our entire district is a woman.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:38pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Chest----So your boss(es) never give you assignments that you might have to give to employees that have a deadline over the work they normally do in a week? I work in a fast paced job and have things that come up that are not on my normal work day "plate". My bosses management skills do not "suck" because of this. We are driven by the media and customers and there are a lot of rushes to be done almost everyday. If my boss (or even head boss) gets something that they have to get out ASAP, their priority is to get it done and to make sure the person that normally does that work gets it done in a timeframe, no matter if it goes outside of the normal work day and their errands get pushed back.

She did say that there are times when things have to be done outside the normal hours/work week, but also pointed out that if that were a constantly-occurring issue, it would indicate that something is wrong with her management style.  I agree.  I work in a seasonal business.  There are times when I work eighty hours a week.  There are times when I work twenty.  Mine is seasonal and predictably so, so I can adjust the work/life balance during the busier seasons.  But if I constantly had to work eighty hours?  I'd burn out and be a bad employee.  Nobody wants that.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:35pm

lifespeachy wrote:
This isn't about an assignment. It's about overall work load and job performance, and a long term home/worklife balance that benefits the employer AND the employee.

Exactly.  I've been working this schedule almost constantly for 6 1/2 years.  Life/work balance began to erode after the first few months.  I love my job(s) but it is nearlyimpossible to maintain that kind of schedule and maintain a home at the same time. 


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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:30pm
Chest----So your boss(es) never give you assignments that you might have to give to employees that have a deadline over the work they normally do in a week? I work in a fast paced job and have things that come up that are not on my normal work day "plate". My bosses management skills do not "suck" because of this. We are driven by the media and customers and there are a lot of rushes to be done almost everyday. If my boss (or even head boss) gets something that they have to get out ASAP, their priority is to get it done and to make sure the person that normally does that work gets it done in a timeframe, no matter if it goes outside of the normal work day and their errands get pushed back.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:30pm

bordwithyou wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">cruisingchick20111</em> wrote:</div>I do consider myself VERY blessed for my work schedule. Also for my dh's who is able to run many errands, do housework and cook dinner for us. I am aware that others don't have that type of job though. I have friends who work those hours and at one time, my dh was working 60 hours a week. Their bosses can't make it their priority to worry about their errands though.</blockquote></p><p>Bosses who don't worry about work/life balance for their employees often find themselves in the position of having to find new employees.  I suppose in some fields, it doesn't matter.  It costs us about 10K to run a search for a new colleague, so we'd rather not do it if we don't have to.  Plus, if we have to hire at the entry level, it's often years before we are getting the same "work" out of a new employee than out of a seasoned one.</p>

Yep.  And in my situation, he'd have to hire two new employees, which he can't do right now.  Which I understand, since I know the exact financial situation of the company at all times.

I also know that we work in an industry that was one of the hardest hit by the recession and I know it will take extra on everyone's part to get things right again.  I've chosen to continue to help him out because I care about the company and I care about the people in it. For the most part, he takes care of his employees, but he does have trouble seeing that my working the equivalent of 1.75 jobs for him interferes with my ability to function.  I can skip mopping.  I can't skip feeding myself.  I can't skip having a relationship with my family.  I can't skip having clothes to wear to work.  I don't "whine about not doing errands" but I do believe that employees deserve a little understanding wrt having other things in their  life besides their job.  He doesn't get that naturally, so it's something I have to remind him about sometimes. 


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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:24pm

I make sure my employees have work-life balance, and they have assignments and responsibilities that can typically be done in a usual work week . I do not micromanage their time. If they have to run out to shop, they are professional enough to get their work done often outside of the typical 9-5 workday. If they are assigned a last minute assignment that needs immediate completion, they are professional enough to prioritize it to get it done. If I constantly gave them such assignments, (1) my management skills obviously suck (2) they would move on to a different position because they are in high demand.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:21pm
I was speaking in general Lauren as yes, I don't know about how your job works.
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:20pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Yes they should care about their employees but their first goal is to make sure the job at hand is done and if that means they have to have their employees work longer hours to get it done (and them not being able to do household chores), that is what is first priority. I can't imagine having a big project to do and whining about how I have to go and mop and can't get it done because I am here at work. lol.

That statement shows exactly how little you know about the situation.  Which is fine....IMO, the less you know the better...but you may want to restrict your judgements to things you actually know something about.  And I'm not just talking about things that have to do with me.


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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:19pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
I do consider myself VERY blessed for my work schedule. Also for my dh's who is able to run many errands, do housework and cook dinner for us. I am aware that others don't have that type of job though. I have friends who work those hours and at one time, my dh was working 60 hours a week. Their bosses can't make it their priority to worry about their errands though.

Bosses who don't worry about work/life balance for their employees often find themselves in the position of having to find new employees.  I suppose in some fields, it doesn't matter.  It costs us about 10K to run a search for a new colleague, so we'd rather not do it if we don't have to.  Plus, if we have to hire at the entry level, it's often years before we are getting the same "work" out of a new employee than out of a seasoned one.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:18pm
This isn't about an assignment. It's about overall work load and job performance, and a long term home/worklife balance that benefits the employer AND the employee.

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