Do you care if your children work?

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Do you care if your children work?
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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 12:15pm

The reason I throw it out there is because a women told me a story and went something like this.


Her father's best friend saw her at a family party and asked what she was doing and she said she was a mother with 3 beautiful children. He was very happy for her and asked where she worked and she said she stayed at home. So he asked where she worked before she had children and she said my son is in high school, I married right out of graduate school and never worked out of the home.


He said, "Wow - what a waste." Of course she was offended.


It ends up she has a masters in Engineering - went to some very good colleges and graduate school. The total cost being in the $75K range, about 15 years ago.


Now I don't think that somebody should forgo an education if they plan to stay at home but would you agree to pay for graduate school, law school, med school, etc. if you children did not plan to work?


My husband and I do not plan to fully pay for our kids college or graduate school but if I did I think I would be a little disappointed if they never worked.

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Avatar for rollmops2009
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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 12:24pm
We plan to pay for dd's schooling to the extent that we are able. Whether she plans to work or how much she plans to work or as what she plans to work will have nothing to do with it. We will pay because we want to.

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Erica Jong

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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 12:38pm

"to the extent that we are able"


Does that mean if you have extra money? Would you take a job to pay for it? Would you mortgage the house?

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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 12:46pm

If necessary I would take a second job, yes, but it is unlikely that it will come to that. It would be in the event of another crash or other calamity.

However, we do not have endless resources and have made clear that we won't pay for a full ride at a private US college, for example. But college at some kind of reasonable cost we will pay for and grad school too.

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Erica Jong

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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 12:54pm

I really don't ever see DH and I being able to pay for any post-graduate education for our kids, so the topic is a bit of a moot point to me.

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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 1:14pm

I would like my children to work

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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 1:18pm
Agree, and want to add that, imo, any degree is helpful to one as
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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 1:21pm
Yes, exactly. As dh always tells people who ask what the use is of studying the classics, "It will make you a better person." He is teasing them, but only a little.

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Erica Jong

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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 1:24pm

We plan to pay for the first 4 years, and as much as we can for anything beyond that.

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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 1:42pm

I agree with what you said. But if I took out a loan to pay for my son's college and he graduated and I was working - paying off the loan and he was not working I think I would be disappointed.


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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 2:03pm


But if I choose to take out the loan, I do that expecting that I will pay back the loan.

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