Do you care if your children work?

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Do you care if your children work?
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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 12:15pm

The reason I throw it out there is because a women told me a story and went something like this.


Her father's best friend saw her at a family party and asked what she was doing and she said she was a mother with 3 beautiful children. He was very happy for her and asked where she worked and she said she stayed at home. So he asked where she worked before she had children and she said my son is in high school, I married right out of graduate school and never worked out of the home.


He said, "Wow - what a waste." Of course she was offended.


It ends up she has a masters in Engineering - went to some very good colleges and graduate school. The total cost being in the $75K range, about 15 years ago.


Now I don't think that somebody should forgo an education if they plan to stay at home but would you agree to pay for graduate school, law school, med school, etc. if you children did not plan to work?


My husband and I do not plan to fully pay for our kids college or graduate school but if I did I think I would be a little disappointed if they never worked.

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 8:19pm
My mother doesn't like to cook so Dad would tease me that my staying around meant homemade biscuits, homemade gravy and all that good stuff ha

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 8:24pm
My children will be allowed to live with me after high school in two potential ways: 1) rent free if they are in school or 2) as a rent-paying contributor to the household.

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 8:26pm

Did you miss the post about "coupon is NOT a verb"?

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 8:27pm
No.

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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 8:55pm
Coupon is not a verb.

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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 8:56pm
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Registered: 07-09-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 9:14pm

Yes, once again, I do know that. I aced English in school w/flying colors and honor roll merits


women talk about going "couponing" though. I go to store and everything I buy is with a coupon. That is referred to as "couponing". I didn't decide it to be used that way. Picked up that term on blogs and boards and in the local frugal ladies column in our paper.


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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 9:43pm
My goal is to have enough to at least cover our expected family contribution. I really don't think it would be fair to my kids to not have at least that much for their college education.
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 9:53pm
Is there a formula for expected family contribution? I have no idea how much a college would expect me to contribute, but like you I feel obligated to at least provide that much for my children.











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Registered: 04-22-2009
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 9:55pm

we did not qualify for the "parental contribution" part due to our credit conditions at this point in time. Ds was given both loans to cover his college for this year -- however, he would have paid our loan back to us anyway as we intended for him to finance his education (local state college) with student loans.


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