Do you care if your children work?

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Do you care if your children work?
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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 12:15pm

The reason I throw it out there is because a women told me a story and went something like this.


Her father's best friend saw her at a family party and asked what she was doing and she said she was a mother with 3 beautiful children. He was very happy for her and asked where she worked and she said she stayed at home. So he asked where she worked before she had children and she said my son is in high school, I married right out of graduate school and never worked out of the home.


He said, "Wow - what a waste." Of course she was offended.


It ends up she has a masters in Engineering - went to some very good colleges and graduate school. The total cost being in the $75K range, about 15 years ago.


Now I don't think that somebody should forgo an education if they plan to stay at home but would you agree to pay for graduate school, law school, med school, etc. if you children did not plan to work?


My husband and I do not plan to fully pay for our kids college or graduate school but if I did I think I would be a little disappointed if they never worked.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2009
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:02pm
That was the plan with our DDs but we did divert from it a bit. After college they were allowed to live here rent free. That allowed them to save up some funds to make the final move out.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:06pm
Here's a calculator: http://www.finaid.org/calculators/scripts/quickefc.cgi You'd have to do some guesswork to figure it out for 15 years in the future. (What will your income be when your kid gets to college? How much will college cost in x number of years? etc.)
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Registered: 07-12-2005
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:11pm
I do not care if my children are ever employed, but I care a great deal that they are employable.
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Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:14pm
Excellent, excellent post
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:23pm
Yes, yes, yes. Perfectly stated.











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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:23pm
Yes, excellent!
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:29pm
Thanks! That was very helpful.











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Registered: 02-04-2009
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:36pm
People use language in lots of uneducated and objectionable ways. The 'emverbing' of nouns is particularly heinous when the offender tries to claim an advanced education.

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:42pm
I think it's cute when my 3yo asks to go "grocery storing".
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Registered: 07-09-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:42pm

Like I said, I p/u the term from blogs and web sites. Ladies are talking about going out "couponing".


I pay no attention to the inaccuracy of the language, they started the term, ok. I don't care if I'm couponing or shopping with coupons as long as I have a large pocket of dollars in savings at the end of the day.


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