Do you care if your children work?

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Do you care if your children work?
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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 12:15pm

The reason I throw it out there is because a women told me a story and went something like this.


Her father's best friend saw her at a family party and asked what she was doing and she said she was a mother with 3 beautiful children. He was very happy for her and asked where she worked and she said she stayed at home. So he asked where she worked before she had children and she said my son is in high school, I married right out of graduate school and never worked out of the home.


He said, "Wow - what a waste." Of course she was offended.


It ends up she has a masters in Engineering - went to some very good colleges and graduate school. The total cost being in the $75K range, about 15 years ago.


Now I don't think that somebody should forgo an education if they plan to stay at home but would you agree to pay for graduate school, law school, med school, etc. if you children did not plan to work?


My husband and I do not plan to fully pay for our kids college or graduate school but if I did I think I would be a little disappointed if they never worked.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 9:17am
i know many, too who have planned to SAH.

 

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 9:19am
google is your friend.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 9:24am
there's the classic, i puffy heart you, too..i'll try and find it.

 

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 9:30am

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And for our kids the "expected parental contribution" would equal zero.

2010 Siggy
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 9:32am
I am not sure what you are asking. What about FAFSA?
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Registered: 05-02-2006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 9:40am

<high school in two potential ways: 1) rent free if they are in school or 2) as a rent-paying contributor to the household.>>


That's our deal to our kids as well.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 9:41am
That might be the case if you had no assets, no income, heavy medical expenses, many children in college at the same time, or whatever. Otherwise, your kid would be stuck coming up with the percentage of his or her expenses you could pay but choose not to, because there is no fairy godmother out there willling to hand your kid the money you could give but choose o spend on other things.
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Registered: 04-22-2009
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 10:04am

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in our case, there is no money available so it's not that we "choose" not to.

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 10:10am

i think "heinous" (LOL!) is just a little bit strong. The fact is that while the vast majority of english stays the same, there are always words that creep into our lexicon and become accepted verbiage.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 10:13am

it's heinous; next thing you know, people will be architecting software.

(I'm only kind of joking)

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