Do you think about your life this way?

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Do you think about your life this way?
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Mon, 07-14-2003 - 12:27pm
By this way.. I mean like we discuss it on this board. Do any of you honestly think about your lives in the context of it's "higher" meaning on a refular basis? I do this because it enriches my child's life, and he will become a better person because of it... Or am I the only one who thinks on a daily basis, getting all existential (sp?) is worthless? We make all our big decisions WRT child rearing and other life decisions as well informed as we can, but I don't find myself reflecting on it on a regular basis. (Except when I'm here) I just go through life one day at a time, and take it as it comes, and do what has to be done. Is that weird?

PS... like my morning sickness icon? LOL

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Mon, 07-14-2003 - 12:37pm
I guess I don't question/examine my work status and its impact on my kids on a regular basis, but I do spend a fair amount of time and energy thinking about how my choices impact my kids in general. Maybe I'm just a thinker/worrier!

PS Bad morning sickness, huh? I never had it with either of my boys - I was very lucky!

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Mon, 07-14-2003 - 12:52pm
I know that I exist for a reason and a purpose beyond what I can see. I am part of the puzzle and plan that God has for everyone. We as humans can only see the small picture and it is hard for us to see past our own wants and needs. We do not grow by our good times and joy, yet we grow by our pain and suffering. Each day is a unique gift and we should strive to do something to make each day worthwhile. All along seeking and listening for the greater good that we can accomplish. I am here for more than cleaning and washing. Those things are included in my journey but I feel no less valuable for them.
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Registered: 05-13-2003
Mon, 07-14-2003 - 1:19pm
No, I never think like that. Too depressing.

And I totally get the morning sickness icon, I was the queen of morning sickness.

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Mon, 07-14-2003 - 1:24pm
Hmmm...I am pretty much happy to get through a day and through a month. I do not spend a lot of time analyzing my decisions or reading studies before I make a parenting decision.

We took Zak (6) to Pirates of the Carribean Sunday. I did not read studies about the effect of violence upon kids. I asked one of the workers earlier about what he thought of it and whether there was any cursing or sex. There was not. I took him. I have not spent a whole lot of time worrying about it.

Yeah, I have moments of self reflection and the greater good. I hope I am doing a good job parenting. I worry about the effect of my DH's cancer on my children. Zak goes to Gilda's (a cancer support club) every Thursday. We try to be open about DH's health. I have tried to read books on fatherless children and grief. I can't get through them. We will cross that bridge when we get to it (hopefully, never).

I usually make my parenting decisions based on common sense, advice, prayer and instinct. I do not read "experts." If I did, I would a withering, shivering mass of motherhood. Do I wear my baby? Do I let him cry it out? Do I homeschool or send to school? Do I let him watch TV? Do I get flashcards to teach him Spanish? I do not have the time nor the inclination. I do what I think is best and hope it works.

K

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Mon, 07-14-2003 - 1:33pm
Too funny, the puker icon, lol. Your question is appropriate to my experience as a family child care provider, and this board has certainly lent me many ideas because the sah-woh thing is actually right in my face almost on a daily basis. Almost all of the moms I have done and do child care for question me "am I doing the right thing?" "do you think I should cut back my hours?" "is my child okay with my absence?" I do a lot of counseling here ... basic support. I haven't had a father do this ... tho I had one father once come in completely depressed and ask me point blank if I thought his wife wanted a divorce ... OMG, no kidding. Like I'm Lucy from Charlie Brown ... sitting here doling out advice for a nickel, lol.



As for me ... I pursue what I do because of existentialism ... this is my one life, too bad if I don't get it right the first time.

Linda

 

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Mon, 07-14-2003 - 1:35pm
So if you think it's your one life, why aren't you trying to get rich, famous or both? I am quite serious here.

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Mon, 07-14-2003 - 1:42pm
See, that's what I mean, that's why it's depressing, I was the one who was supposed to have all of that....
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Mon, 07-14-2003 - 1:43pm
Why is it depresssing? You still can, if you really want it.

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Mon, 07-14-2003 - 1:43pm
I used to lurk regularly before the board changed. I only peek in a few times a week now. Anyway, your post made me laugh.

My dd's caregiver said my dh was the first Dad she had seen cry. The first day he cried so hard when he dropped her off he couldn't talk. I cried so hard when I picked her up, I couldn't talk. She calls us the crying family, LOL. We stopped crying after a couple of days though. She still laughs at us and tells us we worry to much.

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Mon, 07-14-2003 - 1:46pm
Yeah I know, but unfortunately I'm too lazy. That, and I waste waaayyy too much time on this freakin' board!

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