Do you think that long paternity leave is unrealistic?

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Do you think that long paternity leave is unrealistic?
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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 4:04pm

According to Today, some dads think so:

The eight weeks of paid paternity leave that Yahoo male employees now receive, thanks to the company’s generous new policy, makes plenty of dads envious of all that time for bonding with baby.

Yet for many dads, the lengthy time the company is offering seems too good to be true, and maybe even unrealistic. Because while it would be a dream to have a guilt-free two month leave from work, many say they feel pressure – whether self-inflicted or external -- to get back to work.

Read more: http://www.today.com/moms/yahoos-long-paternity-leave-unrealistic-some-dads-say-6C9724866

There is no way my husband would have taken off that amount of time with any of our boys, he can barely handle a four day weekend at home ;)  In the industry he was working in, and with his supervisory responsiblities, I don't think it would have been realistic for him to take off more than a week at a time.  

What do you think?  Do you think it's more acceptable for dads to take paternity leave, or does it depend on your field of employment?

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Well, if some dads don't want to take it, they can just not take it.  Hopefully, as more dads take this kind of leave, there will be less of a stigma when they do.  I can see how it would be really nice if Mom has to go back after 6 weeks or if the baby is particularly demanding.   

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geschichtsgal wrote:
<p>Well, if some dads don't want to take it, they can just not take it.  Hopefully, as more dads take this kind of leave, there will be less of a stigma when they do.  I can see how it would be really nice if Mom has to go back after 6 weeks or if the baby is particularly demanding.   </p>

ITA--my DH wouldn't have taken it, but I SAH. He didn't need to. I had both of my retired parents nearby w/our first and they couldn't get enough of their first grandbaby. But I recognize that my situation is hardly universal...

I wonder how many men would take advantage of it though? My DH prefers kids over babies. He loved our babies because they were our babies, but he does not love babies or the baby stage. Again, I recognize that not every man is like my DH (my dad loves babies), but I don't think my DH is particularly unique in the fact that he'd rather have six weeks w/a big kid than six weeks w/a baby...

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"What do you think?  Do you think it's more acceptable for dads to take paternity leave, or does it depend on your field of employment?"

I think it's more acceptable for dads to take the leave than it used to be, if that's what you mean.  The dad's who that is important to will take it--who knows how many that is.  I would hope many would.

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It would depend on the dad and the job demands, Like your husband my DH has supervisory responsibilities that require contact and communication on a regular basis, I can't imagine him being free of that for 6 weeks, Lol. We've lived away from home since the birth of our first 15 years ago already and that in part is why we afford ourselves a SAHP.

 

 

 


 


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Jambles, Couldn't your husband's company hire a temp or something so he could take some time off? Couldn't his co-workers fill in whole he's gone? Or is he the only one in his company that can do his job?
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Repetitive Post.

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I think it's acceptable and really depends on the father, family and job.

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jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>It would depend on the dad and the job demands, Like your husband my DH has supervisory responsibilities that require contact and communication on a regular basis, I can't imagine him being free of that for 6 weeks, Lol. We've lived away from home since the birth of our first 15 years ago already and that in part is why we afford ourselves a SAHP.</p><p> </p><p> </p>

OH no Jams, he can just get a temp to fill in, wasn't that the main point of the debate yesterday?  What a double standard you have going on here...

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pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;It would depend on the dad and the job demands, Like your husband my DH has supervisory responsibilities that require contact and communication on a regular basis, I can't imagine him being free of that for 6 weeks, Lol. We've lived away from home since the birth of our first 15 years ago already and that in part is why we afford ourselves a SAHP.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>OH no Jams, he can just get a temp to fill in, wasn't that the main point of the debate yesterday?  What a double standard you have going on here...</p>

PKA--he can't get a temp. He's a penis person. SavCal is not, so she's not indispensible...only the penis people are indispensible in Jambles-land.

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reginageorge2005 wrote:
PKA--he can't get a temp. He's a penis person. SavCal is not, so she's not indispensible...only the penis people are indispensible in Jambles-land.

Fortunately my husband's field doesn't require significant use of his penis.

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