Do you think that long paternity leave is unrealistic?

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Do you think that long paternity leave is unrealistic?
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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 4:04pm

According to Today, some dads think so:

The eight weeks of paid paternity leave that Yahoo male employees now receive, thanks to the company’s generous new policy, makes plenty of dads envious of all that time for bonding with baby.

Yet for many dads, the lengthy time the company is offering seems too good to be true, and maybe even unrealistic. Because while it would be a dream to have a guilt-free two month leave from work, many say they feel pressure – whether self-inflicted or external -- to get back to work.

Read more: http://www.today.com/moms/yahoos-long-paternity-leave-unrealistic-some-dads-say-6C9724866

There is no way my husband would have taken off that amount of time with any of our boys, he can barely handle a four day weekend at home ;)  In the industry he was working in, and with his supervisory responsiblities, I don't think it would have been realistic for him to take off more than a week at a time.  

What do you think?  Do you think it's more acceptable for dads to take paternity leave, or does it depend on your field of employment?

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thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>  Military familes are special. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Definitely.</p>

Yes they are special, but actually it's a really bad idea to give most military people 2 months off of work after they have been deployed a year.

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My brother had 6 months leave with each of his kids. His wife also had 6 months. By the time the kids were a year, they went to daycare. My brother is self-employed (but required to carry unemployment/disability/parental leave insurance). His wife was in grad school, when the first was born, and she got paid leave from school. When #2 was born, she was working a regular job of some kind.
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thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">grapthars_hammer</em> wrote:</div>  But it's good to know that if they ever decide having one person handling the stationery needs of the entire Legislative Branch of government is one person too many, I can go substitute teach.  Likely I'll have way more time for sewing then.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Subs need at least a bachelors degree.  In our county, long-term subs need the bachelors and Masters, like the tenured teachers.  (Obviously, only the public schools.)</p>

Varies by state and district. I was a long term sub w/o a bachelors degree & w/a bachelors degree. I'd have gotten a job teaching (w/provisional certification--I was not an ed major) straight out of high school if I'd been willing to live in my college town. That principal wanted to hire me desperately. 

Your county's requirements are not universal.

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p>Are there even time clocks anymore?  I thought everything was pretty much automated by now.</p>[/quote]I

I punch a old fashioned time clock.

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thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;thardy2001&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;It's less about the job as you said your predecessor left for quite some time without a replacement.  Let's cut thru the -----.  You're "not thrilled" with your pay, it's a job paid for by tax dollars, no one kills herself at such a job. &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Frankly, I had to lol at the notion that people in any field convince themselves working 8-9 hours without a break is unhealthy and unproductive.  But that's what we would expect at a job paid for by the taxpayers ~ take 8 months paternity leave, don't work a full day without break.  THAT I get!  But it's very different in the private sector.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;It's less about the job as you said your predecessor left for quite some time without a replacement. &amp;gt;&amp;gt; Ummm, yeah.   And many things were left undone.  And the other staff were extremely overworked in her absence.  Same as it would be if i was gone for a long period of time.  Also, since then the workload has increased (due in great part to those federal regulations I mentioend before)  without a corresponding increase in staff.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;You're "not thrilled" with your pay, it's a job paid for by tax dollars, no one kills herself at such a job.&amp;gt;&amp;gt; I'm not thrilled, but I"m okay with it.  And I"m not killing myself at my job. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;And I call bullshit on the private sector being different.  Private sector companies I worked for had breaks - lunch breaks, coffee breaks, donuts and bagels every friday mroning, 1/2 days on friday, softball practice on company time ....&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Again, how long has it been since you worked in the private sector?  You paid for a lot of that in decreased salary.  The recession kinda took away some of those little perks.  Um, people lost jobs, their homes.  And it continues.  Only in public sector jobs can one <strong>freely and openly spend as much time</strong> on the internet.</p>

Oh, so Spring is in the public sector now? I thought she worked for a private company...

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This thread makes me sad. Yes, most dads (those not taught to fear their own children) would love to spend time off work bonding with baby. And yes, it's absolutely realistic for a dad to take time off of work to do that. Why do we even need to ask this question?

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