Do you think that SAHDs are stigmatized?

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Do you think that SAHDs are stigmatized?
Wed, 05-22-2013 - 3:51pm

In the following article, a SAHD talks about his choice to quit his job to be with the kids, and how hard it has been to reenter the workforce.  I thought it was interesting to see him question whether SAHD are more stigmatized when reentering the workforce versus SAHMs. 

Now that his children are older, though, he is trying to take the logical next step and find a paying -- albeit part-time -- job. But he's finding that this path back is even lonelier and less predictable than the one that led him home in the first place.

What does the job market do with a man who stayed home for more than a decade? What does he do with himself? Is it harder for a man than for a woman to return to paid work? Is there an added stigma? And will that fade as more men do what he has done?

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He had good advice for anyone considering SAH, that they should try to keep one foot in the door so they aren't out of touch when they want to return. 

Any thoughts?

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Tue, 05-28-2013 - 5:41pm

Every single SAHD I know, to a man, is one because he kicked butt in some tech company or other venture and is now rich enough not to have to go to work. So instead of being stigmatized, these men are probably the envy of their peers. One dad who returned to work became a high school math teacher, a job he'd always wanted and turned out to be very good at. (In our state, you can't teach in the public schools without a master's degree, so obviously, he was very committed.)

My guess is that men who are generally perceived as competent, as these men are, probably won't be stigmatized for staying at home. With everyone else, it probably depends on what they were doing before they became a SAHD.

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Wed, 05-22-2013 - 6:52pm

<What does the job market do with a man who stayed home for more than a decade? What does he do with himself? Is it harder for a man than for a woman to return to paid work?>

Unemployment is still high, college grads are having a hard time finding work, so it strikes me as a very odd question to ask if somone with no experience for a decade finds it difficult to find work in the current economy. I haven't heard many positive stories of women returning to employment similarly, especially when he puts conditions on what type of employment he is welling to accept, e.g. part time.

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Wed, 05-22-2013 - 4:56pm

Anecdotal but my friend's brother was a SAHD for 10 years and that role was listed on his resume, He did odd jobs here and there then when his kids got older he landed some kind of college admissions/office job.  I think he's returned to school at the college he works at now which will only advance his new career.  SAH isn't really an exit from the working world unless you chose to never return again.  

Yes, SAHD is still stigmatized by some but that problem belongs to those who are doing it not him.