Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 7:30pm
Doubtful. I get 8 to 9 hours per day. (well, except on Wednesdays)

I did get your point, but it's clear you totally missed mine.

You condemn SAHMs for claiming to need down time where nothing productive gets done, while supporting WOHMs for doing it. And you attempted to claim that TV increases in quality at night over daytime. I laughed at that ridiculous logic, because my point is trash TV is trash TV and it's programmed 24/7.

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 7:38pm
You know.. I read this case one time, where the WOHD left his SAHM, and he didn't want to give her support. Saying, that SAHM was worthless, and she didn't "earn" any money to be entitled to "deserve" any money when he left her. She didn't work and therefore had no stake in the divorce.

You know what that judge did in that case? Would you even care to see HOW WRONG it was for him to just make that arbitrary decision?

BTW. The judge entitled the SAHM a Salary, based on a hard job. and she won nearly 50k/yr as a salary that was "her earned right" b/c she WAS a SAHM, based on the agreement of the couple when they started out.

Now, according to THAT ruling, ANY spouse who chooses to SAH, is entitled to a "said" income, whether the other says they earned it or not. They did earn it, cause no one else was home taking care of the issues there.

SO for you to declare arbitrarily that "the breadwinner" deserves his "earned" right, is argumentatively wrong.

TwinsMom

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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 7:42pm
I've lived in 3 different school systems in my school year "life." One system only offered bus service at the elementary school level, despite the 30 minute commute my sisters took to their high school. The second system, overseas, offered it because the military had to bring kids from so far away in the system. the third, back Stateside didn't offer it at any level, and didn't extend city bus service to many neighborhoods until my senior year of high school.

John attended a different elementary school for kindergarten than for the rest of grades 1-5, but within the same school system. Because we lived within the 1 mile distance for kindergarten AND because there were no major highways to cross, John walked to school (from his daycare, with his other K classmates, accompanied by one of the daycare teachers). We lived within the 1 mile restriction at the other school, but he would have had to walk most of that distance along a very busy highway with no crosswalks or sidewalks, where the posted speedlimit was 50mph, so the school offered bus service to our neighborhood.

However, many parents in this school district drive their kids rather than expecting them to walk and the reasons vary. Some kids are expected to walk, daily, along bike paths which have a reputation for not being safe, because there are many places along these paths which cannot be seen from a street or house--If I had a daughter, I would have been leery allowing her to walk such a path every single day. Similarly, the homework schedules at the higher grades were so stringent, that many kids take home ALL their books EVERY night, which makes bookbags hideously heavy...much too heavy for most adolescent muscular and skeletal development to handle appropriately and the lockers at high school and middle school aren't big enough to allow a rolling backpack to fit inside. At the higher grades, the distances for walking increase to 1.5 miles (middle school) and 2 miles (high school)

Those are just some of the reasons and I can understand why a parent would be reluctant to make a kid walk just because the school system says the school is "close enough."

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 7:42pm
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Explain to me how a Dictatorship is working together.. I seem to have missed that part.....

TwinsMom

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 7:46pm
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What world do you live on where that is even feasable? Like I said earlier, SHE DOES earn her way by being there, making dinner, taking care of finances.. You might as well do it alone by your way of thinking.. I can hardly believe your still married.. Damn, maybe I am just missing something in this long thread.. But I have read every post, and you come off sounding like one stuck up ...., not only that, but your selfish to boot.

TwinsMom

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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 7:52pm
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I reitenerate my stand point. From MY position, this statement is one of the reasons I said you were SELFISH!!! Just b/c he hasn't earned a retirement with a company, doesn't give you the right to be the JUDGE, JURY and EXCUTIONER in his decisions. YOU, Yourself said YOU make YOUR OWN career decisions withOUT his imput. YET he is suppose to sit back and TAKE your Demands, and not retire b/c you feel he hasn't earned it. Yeah RIGHT.

And if this man, did spend UPTEEN yrs trying to find a job that DOES interest him. MAYBE you SHOULD spend a few years a job you hate, so you can see his pov.

**shiver** You really scare me.

TwinsMom


PS. Um, Why are you married? Is/was convienence??

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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 7:55pm
Well, i participated in extracurricular activities and my mom was a ft woh after I turned four. I was in a carpool and each mom took a day to drive the kids. That way my mom just had to lave work early one day a week. It can be done.
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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 7:56pm
I think so . . . those vehicles lurk in our neighborhood too, and we're nowhere NEAR CT! :)
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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:14pm
Semantics. Off work/Upon leaving work/At the end of the work day/Done at work...
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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:19pm
"You condemn SAHMs for claiming to need down time where nothing productive gets done, while supporting WOHMs for doing it." Uh, no, what I said was all moms deserve down time, AFTER all their work is done, That's the first thing you got wrong.

" And you attempted to claim that TV increases in quality at night over daytime" Ha! Also wrong. In fact, I claimed that almost all TV was crap, day or night, just that it didn't seem to matter as much if you wasted time at the end of the day when you weren't going to do anything productive anyway.

Do you even READ my posts? It doesn't appear so.

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