Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


You will not be able to change your vote.


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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:24pm
Hee, hee. I was being sarcastic, because 2 posters implied that school buses were abnormal, and that most of the US doesn't have them.

Now I know for a fact that CT, Mass, NY, Vermont, NJ, Penn, Virginia and South Carolina have school buses, so I'm quite sure CT is NOT the only state with them.

Maybe they're just unusual in the West? Got me, I thought everyone had them.

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:31pm
It can be done by some people, and with some jobs. But not everyone can do it. My husband was never able to take off early. Period. In jobs I have had, there have been two, in which I had some variance in my schedule. But they would have never put up with me leaving early one day every week. Further, there is no "carpool" for my kids things. They have different schedules regularly, and not all of their lessons are in the same town we live in. There is no "car pool" to get them to piano and art and voice lessons. There is no car pool to feed them dinner early on Thursday so they can make it to swim lessons. There is no car pool to get them to soccer practice at 5:30 on Tuesday evenings.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:44pm
Well, to be fair I usually was only in one activity at a time and I also was an only child. My mom worked for the govt. and in general they are more understanding than corporate regarding family. That is why I also became a govt. employee. I am able to leave work early 2 afternoons a week so my ds can have physical therapy. I also missed weeks of work during my pregnancy due to complications. my bosses were only concerned with my wellbeing.
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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:47pm
The school my girls attend is a big "bus school." There are fairly few parents and caregivers there in the morning and at each of their pickup times. Both girls are jealous that most of their class gets to ride the bus. And I got a cross eyed look when I said I'd be dropping them off and picking them up everyday.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:47pm
Actually, its not semantics. The point is that you have to work your schedule around the daycare. Usually, I pick up my ds and since I never work OT it is not an issue. However, on one occassion my dH had the car and had to pick up my DS. Yet, his boss needed him at work. So, he went and picked up my DS, brought him home and then returned to work
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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:51pm
difference being lower versus higher SES maybe?

Maybe it would be better for you to know that most people I know don't actually just sit on their duff doing nothing but stare down a tv for a couple of hours every day. Normally, if they do watch tv (and this includes myself as well), it is usually coupled with something else...cleaning, bill paying, folding laundry, brushing the dogs, playing on the net, drinking coffee, eating lunch, etc.

I would be very hard pressed to find someone in my real life who actually just sits and watches a whole one hour show w/out the ever-present multi-tasking and that goes for day or night.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:55pm
But you wouldn't have to multitask as much if you took all of your available time including nights and weekends to do chores! I guess having no free time for years and years has taken its toll - what the heck would I do, even with two little kids, if I didn't do at least some chores on nights/weekends???

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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:56pm
It's semantics because nothing you just typed was in any way related to my original post. In the context written, it's all about semantics.

If I dropped off my kids at their caregivers in the morning and picked them up at the end of my shift, I'd have an easier drop off/pick up schedule than I do right now as a SAHM.


I'm not living in a bubble where I know no one who WOH. Guess what? My spouse goes to work every day. He even works overtime.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:59pm
You have a lot of nerve, passing judgment on the posters here. You are sleeping with a man nine years younger than you are. You're divorced. Please explain YOUR background - what makes YOU better than the posters and their POVs? What happened to your first marriage?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 9:09pm
No disdain. I just refuse to put them on a pedestal or pat them on the back because they're not doing anything special. Don't confuse refusal to accept claims that SAH is better with disdain.

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