Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 10:53pm
You could at least respect them. All women, Sah or Woh, deserve respect. You show disrespect in the tone of your posts. I would never do that to Woh. I respect them. That is different & not the same as pedestal and patting on back.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 10:56pm
What business is it of yours what WOHs do in the evenings? What SAHs do period? I don't think either camp has to report to anyone.

As for TV being crap, that is a matter of opinion, and varies from household to household.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 11:04pm
Your garbage is what I enjoy (re: daytime TV) I'm not one of those women who are going to hide in a closet or whisper under my breath that I watch soaps, Oprah, Regis & Kelly or whatever on daytime TV. I watch night time TV. I don't watch every thing I enjoy daily. Some days I watch nothing. Same way with evening TV.

While you see TV as nothing better to do that isn't true for all of us.

I'm not a couch potato. But I do have shows I enjoy watching. If I choose to watch them, I do. I may have the tv on and I may not have it on all day. But I'm not less of a woman if I do watch it, day or night.

It isn't a waste of time as far as I'm concerned. That is your opinion. Not shared by all.

I have a long list of things and what I accomplish a day is both necessary and fluff.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 11:04pm
The only judgement that could be misconstrude is the one where I tell her exactly what she is doing to her husband, you know she came home one day with a Plan intact and annouced arbitrarily that she was going to switch from engineering to teaching. Not only that but that she told her dh that he couldn't retire b/c he hadn't earned it.

Oki fine, I said she had no right to do it.. MY opinion. My argument is that's not a communicative, loving, and COOPERATIVE relationship. (She posted this, SHE stated it, so I TAKE it as FACT) Now, I am not judging HER per se, I am saying that what she has TOLD US, well it just STINKS and that's my opinion.

Passing judgement denotes alot more, and well read some of your replies, call the kettle black eh?? (petyn?mom)

Otherwise, I agree with most of the posters here, being a SAHM myself.

so get off your "high" horse, and tell me where my age difference has ANYTHING what so ever to do with this debate??

TwinsMom

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 11:10pm
So you never stop & just do something totally unimportant (like TV) unless all the house is clean, dinner has been cooked, groceries shopped for & put away, and any bills have been written out & put in the mailbox as well as the laundry washed, folded, and put away?

You keep mentioning "after everything is done".

I'm a big girl. I can decide what can and cannot wait. If we don't need that load of towels (as in, we have towels to dry on after that night's baths) and I really want to watch the girls on THE VIEW, I do it. I've also been known to skip the sweeping for 30 minutes to catch a glimpse of GREAT HOTELS on the travel channel.

Yes, guilty as charged, I've took whole days to goof off. Why is that different than my Dh taking a whole day to go to a ballgame? I don't deserve to do the same thing? Why not? If he can leave the yard not mowed why can't I skip spraying down the baths & making the beds that day?

I'm an adult. My days aren't dictated by any type of scheduling and I don't have a check list that Dh checks at night. I don't check up on him either.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 11:12pm
Yes. My scrapbooking would go out the window if I only did pages when everything else was done. I'd never get to see another TV show. I'd never get to go shopping (outside of the errands & household grocery stuff).

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 11:16pm
ITA with what you said:

(Refute me if you want .. but until you've lived in my town and know it like I do, you can't spout your bullchit as anything close to the truth.)

Unless she has been to all of our states, cities, towns, communities, neighborhoods, streets, schools, etc. where every single one of us live our lives she cannot say what it is or isn't like. Although she claims to have this great powerful knowledge of how it really is for all of us and that she knows more about it than we do.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 11:18pm
I know few people who use the school buses if they are available. We don't have them. But for those who do, they still take their kids to school, either by walking them or driving them, whichever is applicable.

Riding buses isn't popular here.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 11:20pm
Yes. I told my friend when we were talking about this the same thing, she agreed. Having just got married she could really see the difference there should be lol

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 11:24pm
But that isn't how I want to live my life! Nights & Weekends are made for families and husband and wife time after the kids are in bed. Not for mopping & laundry. We prefer to have our dinner and play with the kids and after they go to bed have our nightly chit-chat session for a couple of hours, watch tv together, or just cuddle to read together. That is more important.

S.V.

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