Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 3:49pm
I was a Systems Engineer for IBM and a Systems Analyst at Xerox. This started 10 years BC (before children!)
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Registered: 08-29-2002
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 3:50pm
Huh?! Did you miss the wink icon? I work in a company full of people who have responsible, professional, competitive positions that they value and yet, strangely enough, they all take their lunch breaks and thoroughly enjoy them...they take their coffee breaks pretty seriously too :-).

Laura

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 3:53pm
ROFL...whatever. We have plenty of money to afford any program we want to put our children into. It comes down to what we do with our time. If my husband and I were both working a typical 8-5 job, our children would not be allowed to do even half as much as they do now because we value what time we have. We are not interested in a schedule of rushing here and rushing there. We are not interested in rushing around after a 5:30-6:30pm practice to have dinner at 7 or 7:30, rushing baths, rushing bedtimes, etc.

And regarding coaches, it depends. My cousins SAH Husband coaches their DDs team, and I coach my children's teams. I've never had issues coaching while being a SAHP, I just took my other child with me too.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 3:57pm
Oh don't get me wrong, I sometimes took lunch breaks (although they were usually client lunches, which were working lunches I suppose), but if we had a deadline, or a problem to solve (a lot of my job was troubleshooting and fixing client software issues), I didn't take lunch, hell, sometimes I didn't even go home and sleep!
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Registered: 08-29-2002
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 4:10pm
We don't have those kinds of deadlines, and a lot of people's time is just waiting around for things to incubate or robots to finish their run (good time to catch up on one's reading or data handling)...people tend to plan their breaks accordingly :-). I have taken a short lunch/skipped when under extreme pressure, but this is mainly because I have to leave at a certain time every day to pick up the kids. But it is also a philosophical thing. Everyone is required to schedule in 50minutes of lunch per day (so if I work a 6 hour day, I am supposed to tack on an extra 50 minutes to cover lunch) and taking the full lunch break is considered necessary for being properly relaxed for the afternoon work. Similarly, people who regularly skip the coffee breaks are seen as somewhat anti-social and not helping build team-spirit. OTOH, other than coffee breaks and lunch, people tend to disappear into their own world of work...not much chit-chat to be heard and people get very focussed.

Laura

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 4:29pm
Uh. I see. You aren't even there yet. You probably have no idea whats really going on. Thats some area you live in, if it is full of parents taking off at 2-2:30 to make the kids 3pm activities. Lets see. Two kids is the norm. So thats two very short days a week. Makes for some late evenings with the other three days doesn't it. This should negatively impact your family-home-by-6 plan, assuming the reality of activity scheduals doesn't actually do that first. Trust me, starting early in the morning doesn't tend to free up alot of people for the 3pm activity time slot. Now it might work for your husband, but it aint gonna provide enough coaches for the soccer league.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 4:32pm
One of perks of SAH is NOT having to do chores at night or on weekends! When you get home from work and start your chores, mine are already done and I'm spending time with my family--without multi-tasking in the bathroom cleaning, laundry, etc. I even mow the lawn during the week so DH doesn't have to on the weekends. In fact, both kids are napping right now so that's what I should *actually* be doing. ;)
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 4:34pm
I don't put anyone on a pedestal either, but a good pat on the back once in a while? Everyone could use that! Even *YOU* for doing what YOU do.
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 4:36pm
Do you not realize it isn't about the household income that is why people are putting their kids in the 3-6p activities? There is a choice & this is the preference. Is that just so far above your head you can't begin to comprehend it? That is the way your postings sound.

We can afford any program we desire to put our kids in. My Dh is a business owner who sets his own schedule. But not all people around us own their own businesses or even have jobs they can dictate their own schedules, yet they manage to have their kids in these programs. With dual working parents, amazing huh?

S.V.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 4:36pm
I must be lucky, 'cuz that's never happened to me. I make their next appt. at the end of the current one. And (knock LOUDLY on some wood here) they rarely have to visit the dr. for anything other than their well-kid check-ups. Garrett's had one ear infection in the last two years.

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