Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 4:58pm
No, I DO know. If you pay attention to life, and think, as I do, you don't have to actually exprience everything in order to be able to figure it out. As you know know since you so eloquently agreed with me. I was right about your life, you were wrong about your life. Oh yeah, you should also pay attention to who falls for what sort of bs. Logic transcends simple geographic borders.
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 4:59pm
Oh I see now! Duh! Opinion doesn't believe people should value staying home from 6pm in the evenings for family time and then husband & wife time after the kid's bedtime. That must be it.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 5:02pm
Keep telling yourself stupid sh*t if you really believe it!

You know nothing about MY life. I know EVERYTHING about MY life. I could care less about yours, especially since you seem to be one of those "know it all" types. ROFL

There is no BS. I've been to the practices at 4pm on a Wed afternoon. I've been to the 9am soccer game on Sat morning. I've been to the 3:30 lesson. I've been right there with family, friends, and helping neighbors out.

You are wrong, go ahead, admit it, your a big girl :o)

S.V.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 5:06pm
So I win, you loose. Its not about activity availablity, at all. The activities are there. You just don't have the ability to take advantage of them.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 5:10pm
Maybe its an area populated by univeristy proffs? I know my sister, who works at one but isn't one, is always astounded at the leeway the profs take with their...um...scheduals?

1-3 is empty because kids are in school. 3-5 is full of sahms kids, or possibly the kids of parents with exceptionally flexible scheduals. The dual wohp kids are in after 5, but mostly on the weekends.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 5:10pm
LOL, parenting well is just living up to the responsiblity that you chose to take on when you had kids and decided to keep them. Parenting well is an obligation of parents. Something to be expected. It is respectable to parent well but your working status has nothing to do with parenting well. No, I don't respect moms for SAH or WOH any more than I'd respect them for living in a ranch instead of a bungalow. It's just a lifestyle choice in of itself. Parenting well is always to be respected and failing to parent well disresepected. Whether or not we work for a living is irrelevent in this venue. However, I do respect what people do and there are some very respectable jobs out there done by moms, like my doctor. I respect her for being a doctor and for being a good mom. I also respect moms who would rather SAH but get up and go to work every day because that's what is best for their families. It's hard to do something you don't want to do for the sake of others and an admirable action. The majority of SAHM's I've met SAH because that's what they want to do. Last time I looked we weren't in the habit of patting people on the back for doing what they want. We just consider them lucky to get to do what they want.
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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 5:13pm
I don't expect to be patted on the back for living up to a responsibility I freely chose when I had my kids and decided to keep them. I'm not doing something special. I'm just doing what I obligated myself to do when I had my kids. I am obligated to parent well and no one owes me pats on the back for doing that. If you need pats on the back, take a job in a career where people pat you on the back. People aren't obligated to pat us on the back because of how we choose to structure our private lives. The only pats you get/need there are from your own family.
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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 5:15pm
Sweden is soooo much more civilized. I was working my a$$ off like everyone else in corporate America, where if you were caught leaving at 5:00 someone would smirk and ask if you were taking a half day off.

Why do you think I didn't go back after I gave birth? Not a schedule for a mom. Better suited to the young and childless.

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 5:16pm
I never said they weren't there. I said that my children would not be able to take advantage of the opportunities they have now, if they did not have a SAHP.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 5:17pm
WHAT???? How am I obligated to support him retiring?? When did his early retirement become my responsibilty to pay for???? Sorry dear but if you fail to plan for early retirement you have no right to expect someone else to pay for it for you at the expense of their own retirement. No one owes you a living just because you don't want to work any more unless you've beens supporting them and it's just time to return the favor. This is not some kind of pay back I owe my dh in return for having done the same for me. He's just decided he'd rather not work any more, which would be fine if he'd planned for an early retirement. The only people I'm obligated to support are myself and my kids here. Dh is obligated to support himself and his kids.

Do tell what obligates me to fund his retirement just because he's decided he doesn't want to work anymore!!

Your post makes no sense at all. Tell me why I'm now required to work a job I don't want just because dh never found one he liked and would like to take an early retirement!! Tell me why I'm obligated to risk my own retirement to fund his just because he wants it!! No dear, you're the scary one. Lincoln freed the slaves.

Why does the notion that your dh has the right to ask for what he has given you scare you so much??? Turnabout IS fair play.




Edited 9/11/2003 5:41:01 AM ET by cyndiluwho

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