Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Registered: 12-12-2002
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 8:00pm
We believe that they are BOTH important. We are not willing to let either one go, which is why it is important to us that we have a SAHP for our children.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 9:04pm
Oki apparently you haven't read the entire thread...

I don't believe when I said my vows it meant that "here is YOUR money" and "here is MY Money"...

That's what I had a problem with.. And alot of other posters had as well. The picture she paints to us is very one sided. and very selfish. In most of our eyes, we are suppose to take care of our "husband".. Whether that means financially, Emotionally, or physically. She DID say that she came home and announced.. (not asked, not discussed) ANNOUNCED to her husband she was switching careers.. COMPLETELY disreguarding her Life MATE. Now, That in and of itself is just NOT done in most marriages (general term) However, I FIRMLY believe when you say "I DO". It means EVERYTHING!!!!!

So WHAT if he pissed away the "retirement".. Does that mean I SHOULD take a lower paying job just because it Pleases me? The logic of her whole post was questioned. IF she didn't want it debated on this board, it was her choice NOT to post it as an example to back up her POV.

I find no problem using FACTS she posted. *shrug* if she didn't want it questioned, she shouldn't have hit the "post".

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 9:23pm
Um, no offense intended there, nor did I mean to imply you were asking for a pat on the back. Just pointing out I feel no need to pat people on the back who are lucky enough to get the lifestyle they want. As for respecting women, I agree I just see no need to bestow extra respect based on lifestyle choices unless those choices are something special. Like Mother Theresa. Her lifestyle choice WAS something to be respected.
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 10:53pm
My children are young. Both under school age.

We will move our dinner time when the kids get old enough to be in activities. We will pursue the 3-6pm time range of activities because we want to be at home for dinner and the evening.

You think it isn't doable? Try again. I know families that are doing this now thanks to the fact there are activities available earlier.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 10:55pm
Right. Same here.

There are things that are important & that we know we will not change. Sure. I'm willing to move dinner time by same an hour to hour & 1/2. But that is it. Our parent's didn't change dinner times & Dh and I both were very active youth & teens.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 10:58pm
You said & I will quote you:

"but I'm sorry, I just don't see any reason to pat you on the back for that"

If you were using the general you then I misread you. Otherwise you directed it to me.

I think choices should be respected. I respect women's choice to woh and the choice to sah. I think it is important to respect a woman's choices.

Apparently you don't want your WOH choice to be respected. Ok, fine.

S.V.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 11:49pm
Oh, that's where I was confused. I remember you did something technical with computers. So when you said engineer, I thought electrical, mechanical...engineer. And then I got all confused....never mind....:)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 11:54pm
So have dinner at 5. I can think of many times John had a baseball practice around dinner time and I just prepped some sandwiches in the fridge that my ex would pick up when he got John from after school care and I would meet them at the field, having bought chips or fries, something to drink at Union Station and occasionally a dessert as a treat (DC's train station where I caught the commuter train). We'd eat either before or after practice, depending on when practice was scheduled; nice family picnic that took very little in the way of effort and had the added advantage of no evening kitchen clean up afterwards.

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 12:46am
No, it is a regular city with all kinds of professions....flex-time is very common and many people use scheduling, flex-time and 80%-90% working time in order to pick up their kids early 1-2 days per week.

Laura

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 5:39am
LOL, using the specific you but simply pointing out that *I* see no reason to pat you on the back and, really, I shouldn't because it isn't anything to be patted on the back for. Never meant to imply that you wanted to be patted on the back for it. That you have the lifestyle you want is great for you but it's really not my concern.

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