Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 8:41am
Im not sure obligated is the corrct word but i see what you are saying, however some men would prefer never to sah and the ones who want to sah have a wife who will be willing to go out of the home to work. It all has to do with you marriage, communication, goals ect.




Edited 9/11/2003 8:59:54 AM ET by silverunity

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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 8:53am
Any program? ROFL! You better hope none of your kids wants to be an ice skater or a gymnast. My dd was a gymnast for 3 years. The last year (she was level 5), we spent between 4-5K on gym time, coaches, travel, competitions, etc. I hear ice skating is even pricier. You won't ever catch me making the statement "We have plenty of money to afford any program we want to put our children into". We have BTDT. My checkbook is still smarting.

Susan

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 9:32am
You just aren't at that stage yet. Sure there are activities available, but I doubt your 12 year old will want to engage in peewee soccer or gymboree.

Activities for middle schoolers and up occur later on in the pm, especially travel teams and swimming and diving. It's a function of the availability of officials, teachers and coaches (I mean paid coaches, not mommy volunteers). These people typically have day jobs that prohibit them from being available at 3:00 in the afternoon.

You'll see.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 9:35am
Absolutely. We've eaten many a family picnic on the bleachers while watching a game.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 9:41am
I would be able to give you with a straight answer if I had any idea AT ALL of what your question was. Sorry, but I can't read your mind, or your posts sometimes.
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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 9:59am
Oh, right okay sure...I will let pass...lol it was clear i was not ? ing you. Please just once be straight up.




Edited 9/11/2003 10:02:48 AM ET by silverunity

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 10:19am
I think you're in some sort of weird universe. My dad was a very successful engineer in the aerospace industry, and I know he took all his lunch breaks. I don't think it means you aren't committed to your work, I think it means you're human.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 10:22am
Well duhhhh. Only SAHMs have "other offspring running around" WOHMs all have only children.
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 10:24am
There is a 12yo league that the practice is from 3-6p, games on Sat before noon. There are also baseball, basketball, etc. leagues in the same time for even those ages.

I don't think enough can be said for families taking back their dinner time when they want it. Taking back their evenings for family time. Activities have their place but not to replace dinner and family time.

School activities do occur later. One activity per child at a time will be the house rule. I've seen this successful in both family and friend's homes as well as some neighbors I've talked with about this so I believe it can work here.

We are not those kind of parents that the kids are going to be running all over the place all the time. Some, yes. But not constantly.

S.V.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 10:48am
Do you post anything that isn't nasty and condescending? Jeeez... I was trying to give you info from someone who has posted here for almost 2 years to someone who has posted here for 1 week. I would imagine maybe I (or others here) have a little more background info than you. If you would be willing to let your husband quit his job and goof off at an early age even though he wasted every opportunity to save, that's your perogative. But personally, when I took my vows, we became equal partners, and me (or my dh) working their ASS off so the other could do nothing is not part of that. Who are you to speak of the "sanctity of marriage vows" anyways.

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