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| Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am |
Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?
- Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
- It's up to her & her family.
- No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?
You will not be able to change your vote.

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or does that make your pov right and someone else has to be wrong?
Or can more than one person at a time be right in your world?
Laura
I do however have disdain for SAHM's who put their family's in financial jeopardy just to SAH. This is why I had such a hard time with dss's then gf when dgs was born. She didn't care if they went bankrupt. She didn't care if it destroyed their family. She was a mom and she deserved to be taken care of, end of arguement. Never mind she was carrying a debt level to match her earning potential, which wasn't shabby, when she decided to quit her job, literally, when the stick turned blue. She didn't have issues leaving her baby just figured she shouldn't have to work any more. SAH can be an irresponsible choice and I think it was in her case. As a result, her son lived without his father for most of the first year of his life and when they were together it was all out war but she didn't care. She wasn't going to work and that was that. Things are so much better now that she's working, of course with baby number two on the way that could change really fast.
Also people mistake that I think that WOH is the more supportable of the stances with regard to this debate as disdain, which it isn't. SAH doesn't do anything special with regard to the kids. They don't turn out better and their chances in life are not better but WOH can impact SES and SES can impact how kids turn out and what their chances are. Therefore, I think it's easier to show WOH as a benefit to the kids in cases where it positively affects SES (which would be most of us according to the census). You can also show SAH to be a detrement when it negatively impacts SES. I think the stance SAH is better is hogwash. My family benefits from the income I bring in in many ways. The one who'd really benefit if I SAH would be me. Dh would also benefit in that if I were home he wouldn't have to do housework. To the kids, I think it would be transparent. I don't think they'd be better or worse based on my working status.
While I am pro WOHM, that doesn't mean I'm anti SAHM. I really don't care as long as you don't try to pass off what you do as something that you should be sainted for. If you don't want to work and can afford not to, bully for you. Life is cool when you get what you want. It's the moms for whom such choices would be unreasonable I feel for. As hard as it was to leave my babies in dc, it was my choice and I was going to a job I wanted. I can't imagine leaving them when you don't even want to work.
Edited 9/11/2003 11:26:02 AM ET by silverunity
BTW, congrats on the girl.
Edited 9/11/2003 11:27:30 AM ET by tickmich
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