Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 12:57pm
LOL~ I caught that i fixed it. I did not say you "said that" you are right. Iam asking why that has any relevance to your own diatribe & pov?

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 1:01pm
Why do I have to be kidding? I know many school districts that do not have buses and several that do....Not every school district in every part of the US has school buses. No place in Sweden has school buses for any purpose. If the kids go on an outing, they take public transportation (including the daycare kids).

Laura

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 1:10pm
Thankfully we don't have any buses, but if we did, we wouldn't utilize them. Like I said earlier in another post, for the schools that do have buses, they are not being utilized very much at all. Parents prefer to take their children. That is apparent.
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 1:12pm
Even if you live just right by the school where it is almost silly to stop the bus and then stop again at the school yard? That seems like a waste of dollars being spent. I'm glad ours don't have it. Especially for people like me that are just right there at the school.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 1:13pm
Many schools here have no buses! And for the ones that do they are simply not utilized all that much. You should see it when they are "loaded". Seats galore!
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 1:25pm
It can be if the parent's insist. We have higher priorities than activities. OUr kids will be welcome to join in activities that are in the proper time frame. Also, having 2 kids close together, the money pouring out is going to be a big issue. Like CACD was talking about how much she spent on one child! Eeek!

A friend & I were talking the other day and then we were talking to our husbands that these kids that get involved and have to practice, compete, and travel extensively bringing not only huge money to the table but one parent being home while the other travels with the child, not going to happen in our households. We are the parents. Besides. My husband can't run a business and care for one child while I'm off with the other several states away. Besides the fact of the matter. I simply do not travel by myself. NO way!

S.V.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 3:31pm
There are some situations where it is silly. I think it has to do with the type of roads that our township has. It was an old farming town that has grown into a suburb but not all of the roads have sidewalks. It is for safety purposes that they do the majority of the bussing. There are a couple of neighborhoods right near the elementary school that allows the children to walk, but most kids are bussed.
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 3:35pm
The city districts I understand. They have public transportation. I guess that I have always lived in the suburbs and any community that I live in has busses.

You talk about Sweden. They have a great public transportation system. Unlike this country where people are in love with their cars. In most places, unless you live in a major city, the public transporation is terrible. That is why I believe in using the buses when they are available. Keeps the congestion down.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 3:46pm
Your children will not always be small. They will not always go to bed at 8 o'clock. Suppose that one of your children actually gets good at something? Will you deny them a chance to grow in an area just because you don't want to be out of the house after 6 PM? I posted before that my daughter is a gymnast. I did not plan it that way but it was something that she is really good at. She is 11 and she practices 4 days a week from 4-8 and on Saturdays. The reason she goes so much is because she is good. Someone who only did it for fun would probably only go for one hour per week. As the kids get older, the sports will start to interfere with dinner time, if they do sports. The young kids can get away with activities between 3 and 6 but older kids have later practices. Schools run activities in the evenings. Our school has roller skating parties about 4 times a year that are from 6-8 in the evening. Sure, you don't have to go but it is a fun way for the kids to get together. Our school runs many such activities. No, we are not out every night, but some nights we are. Last night was my older son's BTS night. Dh went to that. Tonight is my younger kids BTS night. I am going to that one. When I had kids your age, I did pretty much what you are doing (except that I also worked). As my kids got older, thing got busier.

You seem to be stuck in a mindset. You really need to become more flexible as your kids get older if you want them doing anything at all.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 4:28pm
Hey, I have four kids and it is a juggling act. My oldest son takes karate and is on a bowling league. The karate class is only 45 minutes and close to my house. His friend's mother drives to the bowling league. Both of my daughters are competitive gymnasts. That is where it gets tough. That sport is expensive and it takes up a lot of time but that is what they like and what they are good at. Also, the school is near my house so I can drop them off for a 4 hour practice and just pick them up at the end. I don't watch anymore. We do have parents who drive over an hour to get here but they mostly carpool. My youngest son plays soccer this season. Mostly, he doesn't want to do anything. You just do what you have to do.

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