Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 5:46pm
The "hoodlums" comment is rather rude for us non-bus people. The people who ride the school buses has nothing to do w/us parent's refusing to use the bus transportation (thankfully I don't have it to refuse in the first place).

Around here Wohm's take their kids before they go to school also. It isn't a "sahm" thing as you may like to think it is.

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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 7:03pm
>>>>I truly think this is one of those things some sahm's feel they should do to justify their existence.<<<<

For arguments sake, I will say that maybe some SAHMs need to justify their existence, but this would not up there on *MY* list of worthwhile "prove myself" activities. LOL!

April

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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 7:15pm
Being a military family we have had a lot of moves so have had a lot of different school situations. Sometimes my kids have walked to school, sometimes they have rode the bus and sometimes I have had to drive them to school. Whenever I had to drive them I absolutely hated it and could not wait for the next move/school change so I wouldn't have to do it anymore.

We lost bus service to my DD2 middle school just before she went into 7th grade for her entire 7th and 8th grade years I was the afternoon car pool, other mothers shared the morning drop off but I was the only one whose work schedule made the afternoon pick-up feasible. I am now doing the happy dance because now that she is in high school she can again ride the bus. The end of last year I was like a kid counting down the days to the end of the school year and the end of my car pool reign.

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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 7:28pm
LOL, I don't expect respect for being a WM. Or for being a mother. Neither is a position deserving of respect. They are simply choices I made in my life. I have a job and children because I wanted them in my life. Why is having what I want something to be respected for?? I count myself lucky to have a job I like and to have been blessed with children. There are many who work jobs they don't like and many who cry themselves to sleep with empty arms. These aren't things to be respected for. They're things to be thankful for.

You can disagree with my stance all you want but that doesn't mean having SAHM does anything for the kids having a WOHM can't, lol. Why some SAHM's have to think what they're doing is somehow going to benefit their kids is beyond me. The research doesn't support that. There's a lot more research to support increases in SES benefitting kids than mom SAH. No disdain. I really don't care about things, like our working status, that in of themselves make no difference. I just shoot down those who try to claim it does make a difference because it doesn't, in general, finances aside. That is not to say that due to personal limitations mom not working can't be better for a particular family but for the vast majority, it's just a lifestyle choice.

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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 7:35pm
All you have to do is get educated.
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 7:38pm
No, you're not obligated because you have ovaries. You're obligated because your dh has given you the ability to SAH. If he should decide he wants his turn spending all day with HIS kids, I'd think you'd gladly return the favor. So what if your lifestyle isn't exactly the same. Why does it need to be in order to give him the chance to have what you've had all along?
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 7:40pm
Never said you were obligated because you have ovaries. The obligation stems from what he has done for you. Since he was willing to work so you could SAH, you owe it to him to work so he can SAH if he wants his turn. Not talking anatomy here. Just turnabout as fair play. The ovary coment was just to show that our gender doesn't entitle us to anything.
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 7:43pm
Which is why I, occaisionally, make things like my turkey tetrazini or my nearly famous spaghetti sauce for dinner. Sure it's nice but we're not entitled and shouldn't feel entitled just because we're moms and have the lifestyle we've chosen.
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 7:49pm
Ah. See we weren't willing to have activities 4 to 5 nights a week, so it made the solution of having picnics practical and practicable.
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 8:49pm
Oh, and as to the you have to be kidding statement, it was meant as a comment on you not knowing anyone who took the bus as opposed to not believing that some places did not have bus service.

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