Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 9:37pm
I've worked in my Dh's store....I could run it. But as far as going to college, no thank you.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 9:38pm
Oh gosh, that is stupid.
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 9:41pm
I really don't think you get that it will not be allowed to interfere just as ours wasn't when we grew up in our ind. families.

Top priorities in this house are family time & sit down dinner together. Limited activities will be acceptable but not to great lengths expressed here.

We are firm in this stand as our parents were.

We loved it. We just hope our kids will also.

There will be absolutely no travel team. I know you think, oh well, maybe. There won't. My dh has a store to run and can't travel. I will not travel anywhere without him, that is just the facts.

Sorry, not flexible on this subject. Our parents weren't, we aren't.

We have other priorities.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 9:44pm
We wouldn't allow our children to ride them anyway. So no big deal.

They don't have seat belts, I have issues with that, even though they "say" they are safe.

I don't want my child bussed for over an hour for a ride that is only 10min by car.

I want to take my kids. Everyone I know, WOH and SAH, not limited to SAH, drive their kids.

S.V.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 10:01pm
No flames here. I have to drive mine to school (out of district and they're tiny). Since the vast majority ride the bus, there's always plenty of parking space. However, the parents that just get them out of the car and send them in drive me crazy. I can't figure out what posesses grown adults to think it's just groovy to park in the middle of the street - with plenty of parking in front of them that they're *blocking* - and take their time and talk to the other parents and fumble with their stereo.... It's madness.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 10:49pm
I think it is a state thing. Here in Minnesota it is state mandated that any child that lives more than two miles from his or her school is automatically offered bus services, and that includes private schools, paid for by tax money. Our school district offers bus service for children within one mile of school because our district has the money to do so and thinks it is safer for the children to ride the bus.

I would assume there are states that just don't have transportation to school as a big priority.

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 12:49am
Currently (among my friends and family in the US) I don't know of anyone who has a bus service for their school. Maybe that is a bit of a fluke (possible the result from the fact that all of my friends and family live in one large metropolitan area?), but it doesn't mean that I am lying or unaware of the existence of school buses.


Laura

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:33am
But the number of children and their (his) activities aren't what drive that. Our desire not to have more than 1 or 2 weeknight activities per week is what drove it, and that would have been true whether we had more than 1 child or not. John had MANY opportunities to have OTHER activities that would have increased the weeknight commitments, but we were unwilling to increase that amount, and he had to make his choices based on understanding that some activities would rule themselves out, simply based on practices alone.

We didn't "demand" participation in music lessons, but John did spent nearly 7 years studying clarinet and bass clarinet. We chose lessons that didn't infringe on the weeknight activity ban--specifically to leave those nights open for something else he might like.

We didn't permit John to participate in more than one sport in any given sport season. it's too much. Too much for the kids and too much for the family to try to support in terms of time, making practices, etc.

The schedule you've discussed as insisting upon for your family my ex and I would have never permitted; and he and his wife agree now that they have two kids as well. It's too much and the family loses far more than it gains in trying to keep up with such frenetic scheduling. In our opinion, obviously.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:46am
If you eat at 5, whether your family is there or not, how will your kids participate in a league that practices for 3 (3??????) hours and doesn't end until 6?

For the record, I can't even IMAGINE a youth sports league needing 3 hours of practice per session, and John has participated in all kinds of sports.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:49am
Just pointing out that it is a way to increase your earning potential. Imore than tripled my earning potential by getting a college educaton.

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