Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


You will not be able to change your vote.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 8:50am
That sounds like a nightmare. We were rained out last Friday (tropical storm Henri), so they had the game Monday. I was so dead on Tuesday. I'm glad we only have football games on Fridays.

I can't imagine telling my kids they can't participate in activities because it interferes with family time. I'm just chalking her sttitude up to a mom with little kids who really has no clue about what it's like to parent teens. You can't stop em from growing up, no matter how hard you try.


Susan

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 8:54am
Yup.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 9:57am
Now why would you think any sah mom doesnt think the same way. That is what i dont get from you It seems you think we are just a bunch of ovaries.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 9:59am
You have got to be kidding. I raise my children to respect me as there mother,women and friend and they expect the same in return...all life style choices deserve respect.

Like I say, i think you may have a low regard for women, exp. sahm you are definetley not a feminist.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:05am
No he is not willing to work so I can sah...he insist's he has to work he is passionate about his life and work, We deicided I would stay home and work. Excuse me, but my gender does intitle me to "anything" as my dh's entitles him to "anything". First of all respect!

disclaimer...Iam quoting "anything"

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:07am
I think a second working parent greatly improving SES is just as much an "individual situation" as a SAHP improving family life is. Saying that the only reason a SAHP could benefit a family is if she has personal limitations is not only a stupid comment, it is wrong. The money you make improves your personal family's SES, but that doesn't mean that every mother who starts working will necessarily improve that family's SES. (Remember, at a certain point, more money doesn't do anything, and SES has to do with more than just money. ie: I have a higher SES than someone making the same amount of money in an area where the COL is 3 times as much. I own a home and have money for extras, while they may be in poverty) This is where your "disdain" for SAHMs shows it's ugly head. You basically think that SAHMs bring nothing positive into the family, when studies show that more time with kids is good. I'd love to hear about the fact that I only get "24 minutes a day" more with my kids.... which may be true when you average me out with every other SAHM in the country, but in MY family, when I have worked, it has resulted in *hours* less time a day with my family. When I worked, my dh had less time as well. I'm sure there are plenty of crack addicts out there who SAH and spend NO time with their kids to turn that into 24 minutes a day.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:09am
And do you also give a hats off to moms who don't want to stay home but do anyway because it is in their family's best interests?
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:10am
~No, you're not obligated because you have ovaries~

Exactly...

---You're obligated because your dh has given you the ability to SAH. If he should decide he wants his turn spending all day with HIS kids, I'd think you'd gladly return the favor.---

Why are ?ing me i told you i would go back to work. If my dh came ill, hurt ect I would do whatever it took Iam not obligated, i wouldnt feel obligated, I would be happy to b/c I love him..


--So what if your lifestyle isn't exactly the same. Why does it need to be in order to give him the chance to have what you've had all along--? what are you talking about my dh and my lifestlye is much the same...he doesnt need to have what i want but if he ever does we will certainley work it out.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:13am
Okay, well than i read you wrong it seem's to me that was what your implying.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:14am
Are you kidding? You must be. Amazingly enough, this country wasn't built in the last 90 years. I would bet the town you live in existed long before automobiles did. If you've never been to Europe, I'll give you a little clue... in most towns it is possible to walk everywhere you need to go. My town isn't 15 miles from the nearest larger town because of cars, it's because it was that far away when it began in the early 1800s. It's called there's more room to settle so people settle farther apart. I bet Europe would be the same way if each country wasn't roughly the size of our states.

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