Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


You will not be able to change your vote.


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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:17am
Also, I reread the post and somehow missed the horrendously b!tchy statement at the end, where "young people like me" don't consider public transportation. All I said is it's not available where I live now. I also said that where I used to live, I traveled solely by public bus WITH A NEWBORN and didn't own a car because I didn't need one. And amazingly enough I was 21 at the time. You must live in a city. I'd love to hear your ideas on how to implement cost effective public transportation in a town of 6000 people.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:22am
I'm not arguing that people don't like their cars. What I'm saying is public transportation is .. in a lot of places.. not practical. Things were not built far apart because of cars because MOST TOWNS began long before cars existed. Unless my town, founded in 1855, was built here because everyone who lived here had time machines. People live places because they want to live there. Cars exist because they are a convenience. I'm sorry, but your theory only works in suburbia surrounding metropolitan areas, which amazingly enough, is not the model of a very large part of America.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:23am
Interesting...I would have described the area I grew up in and where my family lives as suburb, but maybe interconnected cities and towns would be a better description. There are enough schools around that it is not too far for walking or bike riding to school. That is how I always got to school right through high school.


Laura

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:24am
Your entitled to your opinion I dont agree with all of it. I DISPISE drop off and pick up my dh takes the kids in the a.m. and they now take the bus home b/c of the pain in the rear pick up. Our line is full of both working parents and at home parents dropping kids off and picking kids up. I also dont think it has to do with any ones existence but than agian that is just me.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:30am
I understand and we will try to run things similar we have a family even that we all would like to remain active in for a time. However my oldest excells in certain sport I do not take that gift from him b/c's he need's to sit down with us ever nite of the week. He foucuses his time on this sport that takes him at times to other areas. He is now a state champion...he may get a scholorships to college he may be a pro.

As a parent I cannot say no to him b/c it is your famliy time.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:59am
Yes. I was talking about the activities from 3-6 like discussed in this thread (although I can't find it with this funky format, ugh).

S.V.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 11:03am
I never had a great time, I was puking, and the kids were yelling because I was puking again! Morning & afternoon. Oh yah, that was glorious childhood fun, NOT!

Not the end of the world? I was sick (in the bathroom throwing up sick) if I road the bus in the morning. I couldn't do my morning school work, attend class, and forgot physical education class, ugh! Then when I got home I was sick if I road the bus, couldn't do my homework. That is a problem. Maybe you don't think it is. But it was. My grades were much better with mom or dad taking us to school so I could participate.

They don't have seat belts here. I think they should! That isn't a moot point. I fear for the safety of other kids.

S.V.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 11:05am
I'm adamant. My Dh is also. So were our parents. It worked in both of their households. It can and will work if the parent's stand their ground. We will. There are some things we won't bend on and this is one of them. Our peeve is over run of activities. Over expenditure (talking when it gets into the hundreds & hundreds of dollars) on activities. The taking away of family time that we believe is vitally important. And no, I will not travel with out my Dh and he can't go, he has the store to run.

S.V.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 11:09am
I was talking about our jr high, connected with our local grade school, right around the corner. I'm not familiar with the high school. I know when I was cheerleader in H.S. for basketball we were usually home no later than 9-9:30. We practiced immediately following school, home by 5.

As I've said. We have things we won't bend on......this being one of them. You may think it is odd, but I'm sure there are things you do that I think is odd. That is the way life circles around and the differences. We place value on something, we are not going to sway from our priorities. We knew that as kids in our parent's home. We appreciated their values and adapted them for our own family.

No. It isn't selfish. If you want to think so that is fine. We don't feel the same way about it as you do. We are just different people, different parenting ideas.

S.V.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 11:10am
I assume that because your children take music lessons, they will at some point perform with a group, unless they are only going to play solo. When that time somes, you as a parent will no longer have the choice as to how many hours an when your child will rehearse and perform. My dd is in band. Because it's marching season, she practices 2 nights a week, 5-8. There is a football game every Friday night. So she misses dinner a minimum of 3 nights a week. Beginning in 2 weeks, we are into competition season, and she will be traveling to competitions almost every Saturday until the middle of Nov. Many of the games and competitions we will attend, but it means bringing meals or eating out for us and for dd. This week alone, there were 2 games and 2 practices. We haven't sat down at the table as a family since Sunday. Sometimes a choice has to be made. You participate on their schedule or you don't. Personally, as long as my child was enthusiastic and got something out of it, I would say ok. Otherwise, what are all the music lessons for?

Susan

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