Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 1:11pm
We will come to all that when we get there. For now, it isn't an issue. Their school does not have a band or sports teams. And when we get to the point where we have to deal with it, we will. I will say that, at this point, there is no way my husband and I would allow one or both of our kids to be away in an activity 3 nights a week from 5-8pm (or later?).

As far as what the music lessons are for? There are many benefits of learning to play an instrument. One of those is an increase in mathmatical abilities. More than anything, though, they will someday be able to play their musical instruments and/or sing in church.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 1:18pm
I just heard about a study that showed that children who learned to play a stringed instrument before the age of 12 use more brain mass than those who didn't. I thought it was interesting.

April

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 1:40pm
Hey, I am sorry that you had such a miserable time on the bus. That is not a universal experience. I rode the bus for 12 years to school and never once threw up and probably only once ever witnessed someone throw up (from illness, not carsickness).

The seat belt issue is a moot point to you because you wouldn't ride the bus anyway. What other children's safety are you worried about? You said that there are no buses for kids in your area to ride. Don't worry about my kids. We have seat belts.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 1:44pm
I know that this county existed before the industrial revolution. I am saying that the advent of the car made it less appealing to try and implement a good public transportation system. Yes, it would be very difficult to try and put a public transportation system into a system that was built for cars. But it was the cars and car makers that made it that way in the first place.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 1:48pm
Yes, that was a bitchy statement. I see people who were born after 1970 as incredibly spoiled. Everything has to be a convenience to you. This country was developed around the automobile. There is no incentive now to implement a good transporation system. It would be next to impossible with the way things have been built. Maybe if the gasoline cost close to $5.00 a gallon like it does in Europe, people may put more thought into public transportation.

PS, I am spoiled too, I fully admit that. But I hate it when people don't even look at possibilities for the future. They just look at how it would impact them now.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 1:54pm
Yes, you do need to be flexible. It was much easier when my children were small to have the family dinner every night. I really liked them. But I, too, have a child who excels in a certain sport. She often misses dinner. But do you know what? It hasn't hurt our family relationship in the least. Yes, a family dinner is a great way for a family to be together. But there is also the family dynamic. If your family has some trouble, the time together can be of great help. If your family bond is strong, not making dinner every night doesn't hurt it either.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 1:55pm
Well, along with your adamant insistence that their evenings are gonig to be organized in order to provide maximum enjoyment for parents - you better start hoping hard that you also have very unmotivated and very untalented kids. Or thats gonna be one GRUMPY dinner table and family room.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 1:55pm
I am traveling to Texas with my daughter in the beginning of October. It would be too expensive to take the whole family. I am only going for moral support because I can't watch her anyway. But, it will be a good weekend for us together.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 1:57pm
Yep!
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 2:04pm
Eww. I can think of nothing worse than having to pick kids up from school, and immediately rush them off to some activity. Even our daughter who has gymnastics twice a week at 4:30, has 45 minutes of relaxation and snack and socialization with her after school program before Dad shows up to take her to gym. Might be fine for the sahp who has had a couple hours of downtime. Must suck for the kids, though. I wouldn't even consider 4:30 for the run of the mill little this - or - that - lets - try something - new ! activity variety. Kids need some unwinding time and downtime before getting shuffled off to something else after a day at school - or they don't get a chance to change gears.

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