Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 2:38pm
Yes, not interested in living on a "postage stamp" size lot for an outrageous priced house! I don't want to sit in my backyard and be able to hear the dinner conversation at the kitchen of the house that backs up to us and I don't want to be able to stand in my den window and look right into the neighbor's den.

We have no public transportation system in our town outside of a large metro area. And if I lived in the large metro area I'd not utilize their transportation system. I can see me w/2 small kids, a double stroller, hefty diaper bag and $200 worth of groceries using the bus lol

And you are right about the 4.99 a lb for chicken, no thank you! It is completely illogical in my opinion also.

I thoroughly agree with your last paragraph and I was born before 1970 hee, hee!

S.V.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 2:40pm
Personally, I like to ski. Sitting with my familiy in our family room as much as possible is not a description of "family time". Not to me. Its a description of "deathly boredom". My son likes to ski also, so goody, we get some nice time in. Now, if I could only get him to quit hockey - we could ski more! And if I could get the husband and daughter to give up the soccer habit. Whooppee. Entire winters of nothing but family fun on teh ski hill. We could even be driving up for night skiing during the week. I'd do it too, and love it, if it were ALL ABOUT ME. Oh, I mean, sure, they could still do martial arts, because that fits in before I get home from work - its part of the after school program. But I could limit their activities so as not to interfere with our family time skiing. But then I'd think I was a very selfish mother. And I think nothing other of the parental type who orchestrates entire childhoods to accomodate their particular homebody activity/hobby.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 2:42pm
I'm not trying to mislead anyone here.. I like public transportation, and whenever I have lived anywhere that had it (affordably) I have used it. But I don't think it's practical in all places.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 2:47pm
You just agreed with clw. You said working wouldn't benefit your family because it wouldn't improve your SES.

That doesn't disprove her point it supports it. It might also support an arguement that would say that young women who take the time to try and ensure that they can earn a good living eventually, will have more opportunity to do things that will beneifit the lives of their eventual children - through increased SES and through access to employment that won't make it difficult for them to be involved in their children's lives - than those who don't.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 2:50pm
Homebody? Did I say we were homebodies? No, you put that in there all on your own. Family time doesn't = family room inside the house or even limited to our own yard, or even our own neighborhood. Family time is wherever the family is together. That can be here in Birmingham, that can be in Bermuda, that can be out at the sports complex or over at the swimming pool.

We just have different priorities. While all of our family time is not spent in the family room or even in the house, some of it is and we like it.

Boredom to you. Lovely time spent for others. We are just vastly different and that is OK because that is how it is suppose to be, we are not all suppose to be alike or like the same things.

Dh & I don't see it as being selfish. We have priorities. Ours for our family is just not the same as yours for your family. Big difference but still acceptable.

S.V.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 2:53pm
That is the other way that we are spoiled. We love our space. I am not saying that is a bad thing but it has also contributed to the sprawl that we are experiencing. People have cars, they have access to undeveloped land, so they move there, develop the land, which now needs an infrastucture, roads, schools, sewers, etc. That gets crowded so people move even farther afield. Leads to more traffic and traffic jams. Just look at the city of Atlanta over the last 20 years.

Yes, it would be more environmentally friendly if people lived closer together. People love their space but it is contributing to the degredation of our land. All you talk about is the inconvenience to you. That is why I called you spoiled. And I hate when people shudder and say "Ooh, public transportataion. Not for me." As if it were a disease.

I am not really an environmentalist. My sister would laugh at that term for me. However, I like to think environmentally friendly. But, I would have voted for the rail line. I can see how a bike path is cleaner, but impractical for the distance you are talking. The new light rail line in my state had problems getting started because people didn't want a train running through their town.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 2:54pm
Like I started out saying, people in this country are in love with their cars.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 2:54pm
EXACTLY!!!! A lot of our family time is spent at the ball fields or in the car. But we still want significant "down-time" as well. That is time we might spend at our home alone or with friend and/or family, it is time we might spend at the homes of friends, and very often it it time we spend at my grandparents home, hanging out with them.

Boring? Hardly.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 3:00pm
But you see I do agree with you here. Public transportation is a good thing. It isn't practical in all places. That is where my argument started. Because of the automobile, the country has not grown in a way that is amenable to public transportation for all. I didn't mean to go off on an environmental tangent.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 3:04pm
Thats just too laid back. If the kids have to stay home all day in order to be able to handle activities in the evening - I don't see it as a good thing. I mean - are there boys involved here? I can see the lifestyle being ok for a child expecting to grow up to be a sahp. But isn't this going to produce kids - boys or girls - who couldn't possibly manage having a job - while doing ANYTHING else with their lives?

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