Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:08pm
HELLO~ I said my kids take the bus home....my dh takes them b/c he wants to be involved in their little school lives and I admire him for that.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:11pm
Oh i love that thought Family dynamic!
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:13pm
I agree i think or hope we all do.


Edited 9/12/2003 5:15:30 PM ET by silverunity
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:13pm
Okay, then let's see if I can explain what I mean. Europe is approximately the size of the US. They were, at one time, both just pieces of land. Europe was developed much earlier, before the advent of the automobile. When people started settling the US, they did so on the coast or along water ways. That is the way people traveled and could move cargo. Land outside of the cites were mainly for farming. Then you had trains to connect the major cities. When the industrial revolution started, people moved from being farmers to working in factories. They needed to live near the cities where the factories were located so that they could get to work. The automobile made it so much easier to move out of the city so things called suburbs sprung up. Businesses could also move away from cities. Then an infrastructure of roads had to be built. People liked the convenience of cars. People gave no thought to planning when they built up the suburbs. Because people had cars, they were designed for people with cars. It is far easier for public transportation to succeed if communities were built with it in mind, but they were not. It is far harder to add it afterwards, just from a logistical standpoint. We made the automobile necessary by developing the way we did. If cars were not available, there would be far more thought as to the placement of communities because people have to get to work and get around. People just wouldn't be living so far out or they would be living along a train or bus route.

Europe is not essentially different. It was once just a big piece of undeveloped land also. It was just developed earlier.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:15pm
Which idea is that? That public transportation is useful? It could have been if the towns and cities were designed for it. They just weren't because people are in love with the convenience of their cars and the cheap gasoline in this country. I know it doesn't look cheap these days, but take a look a the cost in other countries.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:16pm
Nope. No correlation there. It would be like saying my WOH is better because of my personal limitations. My WOH is better for reasons other than my personal limitaions. However, there really isn't an analogy here. When SAH is better it's because of personal limitations. Someone who can't juggle a job and kids. Someone whose job created difficulties that affected the kids. Someone who couldn't make enough to make a difference so all the job would have done is create stress. Someone whose dh isn't going to or in position to help with the kids. The reasons SAH might be better are very situational and are based on personal limitations stemming from your own limitations and those imposed by your situation.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:17pm
Increased SES IS generally better. SAH isn't generally better. That simple.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:18pm
Nope, lol. They're personal and limitiations that result in WOH being a problem. When SAH is better it's because of the situation or the person involved NOT because SAH is just better. The problem here is that people are interpreting personal limitations with failures. I never said that.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:19pm
And that 1% is only using it only one day a week. That's alot of empty buses!
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:19pm
I love to ski, too. But, that is one of those things that I pretty much gave up when I had kids. During the early 90's, I was either pregnant or nursing a baby. By the time I was out of that, I had four kids and it is so expensive to take them all. We'll go someday. I learned in college and used to spend spring break our in Colorado where my brother has a ski cabin. Those were the days.

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