Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:52pm
This is what you said

>>Why some SAHM's have to think what they're doing is somehow going to benefit their kids is beyond me. The research doesn't support that. <<

The research WRT SES doesn't support that. The research WRT being involved with the children does.

You can say that WOH doesn't mean the parents are less involved. You're right, it doesn't necessarily mean that. I can say that SAH doesn't mean the SES is lower. Which is also true. The truth is, parents with a SAHP are more likely to be involved in their childrens lives. No use getting offended at that, because I'm not supposed to be offended when you say children of WOH parents are more likely to succeed in life.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:55pm
Problem is SAH doesn't mean involved with kids and WOH doesn't mean uninvolved!!! Whether or not we're involved with our kids has nothing to do with our working status. If you think SAHM's are automatically involved with their kids, I have a couple of SAH neighbors you need to meet, lol.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 6:03pm
where we live, i think parents are smart who drive their kids to school. the transportation system, along with the school system is horrible. over crowded, disorganized, and down right lousy. my kids have been beat up on the buses, had a gun held to them one year, and have been in accidents. i drove my kids as much as time would allow, and didnt care if i were in the car an extra half hour in the morning and afternoon. it was for sheer safety reasons i did it, and when my kids *had* to ride the bus, God and i talked *a lot*. my ds2 rides the bus now, but hes 16 and 5'10", so nobody really messes with him. when he was smaller, i thought nothing of driving him to school, traffic or not....no wait, there is no, "not traffic". scratch that last part...LOL.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 6:09pm
i bet there are 1500 school buses in our city and not one has seatbelts.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 6:14pm
i dont know that is a pretty deep ? but...you make a great point.
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 7:08pm
Because no one wants their kids riding the bus and no kids want to ride the bus. I have no idea. That isn't our school system. We have no buses. I haven't heard anything about researching it from the parents who take their kids to school. I can't think of anyone that rides a bus. Well, one child, that is it.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 7:10pm
But why does it have to be personal limitations? Why use such a snide term? Perhaps there are certain situations, but not all of them involve *limitations*. At least, not everyone might view them that way.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 7:14pm
But you cannot just say woh is better as a blanket statement either. Like anything else, its situational!

dj

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 7:14pm
Well, we've got busses here, but no school-specific busses unless you're a special needs child. When Griffin starts Kindergarten, I'll be walking him to school. Right now, I have to drive him because it's too far to walk and I wouldn't want my 5yo walking there anyway.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 7:40pm
Not really. I mean, sure in your world it means better. But let's look at this from purely a "scientific" point of view (one of which I know you will understand):

Higher SES means more money...more money means more things (things could be ANYTHING that takes money to acheive).

Higher SES does not mean happy parents, it does not mean a loving home, it does not mean that the parents even actually CARE about their kids. All it means is that they have a higher SES, which gives them more money.

(BTW--just for the record, I don't believe in anything is "better" for everyone...I go on personal choice and what's best for the entire family...if that means a lower SES and the parents actually love and care for the kiddo's...then great. If it means higher SES and the parents actually love and care for the kiddo's...then great.)

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