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| Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am |
Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?
- Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
- It's up to her & her family.
- No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?
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I sah because we want to raise our kids with a mother at home and because I wanna.
Didja ever stop and consider it isn't always a matter of "can't" many times is a matter of "choice."
Just like in your family...you choose to work and your dh can't retire early because it best fits your family's needs and wants to have a dual income family. You have said many times that you could be a SAH if you WANTED to, but you don't want too. You even tried it for a very limited time period and didn't enjoy it one bit. You are CHOOSING to WOH, just like many here CHOOSE to SAH.
It wasn't that you couldn't handle being a SAH...other then the lazy part...but then we go right back to DJ's post if that IS true. Because your personal limitations on finding things to keep yourself busy with the kids and around the house all day long...you couldn't handle being home all day long.
You can't have it one way for a WOH and another way for a SAH. Either we do what we do by choice (meaning those who do not have to work and you have said many times that you don't HAVE to work..but you want to because you want the higher SES) or the fact that those who do choose to work do so because of their personal limitations wrt being a SAH and those who choose to SAH do so because of their personal limitations wrt WOH.
Unless of course you enjoy a double standard?
I chose to sah because I love it and I want to be home with my kids rather than them being here all day with a nanny.
I can't imagine not being able to find things to do. I'm so creative I can't find time for everything I want to do and I sah. I just have too many interests lol
We don't sacrifice. We have everything we want. We do everything we want. Our kids would still spend the day at their home with their toys if I worked.
Edited 9/12/2003 8:39:14 PM ET by cyndiluwho
So that brings us back to
(sing along with me folks....)
Higher SES only brings more family...FAMILY brings in the option factor.
Plus, you brought us right back to your belief in the word "can't." Sure, working might be a negative to a family, just like SAH might be a negative to a family.
Does the WOH automatically think the negative in SAH is spending those extra 40+ hours a week with her children, managing her own time effectivly w/out any input from another person? Probably not.
So why is that you automatically think a SAH chooses to do what she does because she "can't" handle the stress of juggling job and family? Of course, it couldn't possibly be that she very well CAN juggle it...she just chooses not to because it makes life simpler for the entire family if she doesn't.
(although I am a WAH, keep with me here...)...I have two choices. I can SAH and alleviate extra stress from my family or I can WOH and leave the stress there. I have the option of being a SAH...so why wouldn't I want to do that?
And please, I have been here long enough and have a good enough memory to remember even YOU complain about the stress's that are involved with juggling family and job. So don't insult either of our intellegences by saying WOH is a stress free gig.
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