Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sat, 09-13-2003 - 2:32am
You know, there are people who do not have autistic children who SAH and do so for the best interests of their families. Can you imagine that?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:38am
But take out your higher ses factor, and you cant come up with woh being better either.

Dj

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:39am
Ah the data....always the data...

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 8:27am
Take a statistics class. Finding an individual situation that is different from the trend doesn't change what the trend is!!! Yes there are rich SAHM's and poor WM's, however, in general, moms working does improve her family's finances. So you're better off than most. Bully for you but that doesn't change what happens in most cases.
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 8:29am
I didn't say they would. I said that, according to the data out there, WM's ARE CURRENTLY improving their family's SES, in general. I'm fully aware that many lack the skills to earn enough to make a difference or are so well off that working wouldn't make a difference. That doesn't change that mom working improves SES in the majority of cases.
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 8:35am
No but they go hand in hand. It's really rare for mom to WOH and not get paid, lol. It is the financial impact of WOH that results in WOH being an improvement. If you look at the census data, you'll see that, on average, WM's ARE positively impacting their family's SES. I'm not talking about what would happen if a SAHM went to work but rather what WM's ARE doing now. Logically, it makes sense that SAHM's as a class would probably earn less than WM's as a class if they reentered the work force since it's more likely you'll stay in the work force if you are educated and have good earning potential (the two usually go hand in hand) and more likely you'll quit if you don't have the education to earn a good living. Yes, individual cases defy the norm but that doesn't change what the norm is. What's normal is for WOH to positively impact SES and for SES to positively impact kids.

You really can't separate the two as they go hand in hand. If it weren't for my income, I wouldn't work as there would be no benefit from my working. It's not working itself that is better. It's what comes with it. The same cannot be said about SAH. There is no general statment SAH improves (fill in the blank) and that positively impacts kids outcomes. Yes, there are situations where SAH is an improvement but that's because of personal limitations.

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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 8:38am
Um, go read the census data and you will see that WM's ARE positively impacting their family's SES. Yes there are situations where SAHM's have as much as WM's but that does not change that the norm is for WOH to positively impact the family's finances. And that doesn't mean that the family woudln't enjoy even higher SES if that SAHM who has what I work to have were to go to work herself. Obviously, if she considers this lifestyle a sacrifice, there must be some good in moving one further up AND I can glean from the fact she calls this lifestyle a sacrifice that she could improve her family's lifestyle by WOH.
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Sat, 09-13-2003 - 8:40am
It isn't always about lacking the skills to earn enough to make the difference always. I could have a degree but the fact remains I'd still be a sah because that is my desire. Had I went to college I would have tossed the degree to do what I'm doing today. My mother went to college, never used it, not even one day, she became a Sahm as well. I agree with you otherwise.
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 8:41am
That data doesn't support that. Go argue with those who have researched SAH and SES. No clear benefit has been found for SAH but benefits have been found for higher SES that often comes along with WOH.

As for you being better than a nanny, how do you know? A trained nanny might just know things about child development that you don't so spending SOME (not all as this is not a replacement situation) time with a trained and experienced nanny just might be of benefit. We have found our dcp to have been a benefit for our family because of her experience and knowledge.

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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 8:42am
Yes, this is a debate. You have to support your stance with evidence. What's the matter? Don't like what the data says, lol.

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