Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


You will not be able to change your vote.


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Registered: 09-01-2003
Sat, 09-13-2003 - 11:18am
It doesn't matter where family time is spent (in the house, in the yard, in another state, etc) or where the dinner is eaten (at home, restaurant, picnic, etc) it is the family together that is the important thing. Did you really think I meant at home for family time? Our table in our kitchen only for eating?
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Sat, 09-13-2003 - 11:19am
Yes. Your last paragraph sums up my feelings. Yes, yes, yes.
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 11:49am
You can, nobody is stopping you, except your own limitations.

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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 12:08pm
Here is a link that I found that explains it better than I do.

http://user.gru.net/domz/sprawl.htm

It talks about some of the causes of sprawl. It discusses the development in this country pre and post WWII and how it was affected by the automobile.

MJ

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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 12:11pm
Do you ever stop and wonder about the REASON behind the theory?

It makes absolute sense that a SAH has more time to experiance the simple pleasures in life. They are in their home 40+ more hours a week then their WOH counterpart is. We have more time to get all of the household stuff done then you do.

If you want to view pursuing your own interests as a waste of time...then by all means...go for it. However, I find it absolutly wonderful that I can be a WAH (in my case, it is very equivalent to a "traditional" SAH because I CAN get things done in the house during the day that my WOH counterpart cannot do during the day) and enjoy some of the benefits of being here, getting my chores done in a timely fashion and being able to spend nap time pursuing my own personal interests.

Just like you get to enjoy your higher SES by working and I "don't" (although for my area, I am classified middle to upper class and that is on technically one income). I get to enjoy my extra free time, that you don't have because you WOH, by pursueing my own personal interest.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 09-13-2003 - 12:26pm
Nope, I cannot agree. You have yourself spoke of older kids not being left alone. You cannot see that having a sahp where there is a 15yo who would otherwise be latchkey for 3-4 hrs a day as being MORE beneficial than a wohp?

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Dj

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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 12:27pm
ITA
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 12:32pm
Because you are always relentlessly posting about census data-and I've yet to see you yourself post links to such data, although you are quick to request that others do so.

Something to consider-I'd like to know in this data just how many children of the higher ses status come from dual working households. You said that the majority of sahms in your neighborhood (as in mine) have a higher ses with just one parent working. Working does not impact their ses. So while working raises YOUR ses, you cannot use your own anecdotal info to support the data.

And I totally disagree about your generalization that most sahms are less educated and less able to find a decent job-I think that those are the people most likely to NEED to work, they are your checkers at Walmart. Unless they marry a man who is much better educated than them (and overall, most people marry within their own educational realm), they are the ones who are going to be working. The families that have a sahp can usually afford to do so-and most of the women, especially since women are delaying marriage and children longer and longer these days, LEAVE the workforce after children. Which means they are not uneducated or unable to get a decent job. Just the opposite.

dj

Dj

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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 12:42pm
Who considers sah a sacrifice?
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 12:49pm
Post a link. What, I'm supposed to believe your beloved time studies (those and your census results....).

Like OTBM said, there are studies that point in any direction you want them to-there was a recent study done that showed that marriages with a sahp were happier. Happier marriages equal happier kids. So you could say having a sahp is better for the children. Latchkey kids are much more likely to get into trouble during the *witching hours* of 3-6pm. So you could say that having a sahp would be better, generally speaking, for them. There are many reasons that having a sahp could be *better*, none of those reasons having to do with *personal limitations*.

I've said this before, but your own skewed view of sahp is really what colors your *debate*. You havent been around any normal sahms it sounds like, you have issues with your sahm sister, you hated being a sahm because you were caring for a child not your own (with emotional issues) and because your dh didnt make the income to keep your ses up there. And its your inability to admit this, to just flat out say you have issues with the whole sahp concept, that makes no one here really take you seriously.

dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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