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| Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am |
Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?
- Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
- It's up to her & her family.
- No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?
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There is a stigma in this country about using public transport that doesn't exist in other countries. That is what is a shame.
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The evidence out there does not say that SAHM's should go to work but rather that the current lot of WM's ARE benefittng their family's through their employment. Logically, women with lower earning potential are more likely to SAH and going to work without the financial benefits isn't an improvement. Wouldn't hurt anything but it wouldn't improve it either. What we can glean from the data is:
1. SAH/WOH in of themselves make little difference. Yes there are some differences but the majority come out in the wash by the end of grade school and the ones that are left may or may not apply to you. Financial aspects aside, it's pretty hard to use the data to decide which is best. For most, finances aside, the decision has to be made based on personal limitations and special circumstances.
2. The financial aspects of WOH do make a difference but this only applies to the current group of WM's. You can't infer that the same benefit would be derived if SAHM's went to work and I am not saying they should only that WM's are doing something good. It is quite likely that the average earning power of the current lot of SAHM's is lower than that of the current lot of WM's as the more mom makes and the more educated she is, the more likely she is to stay in the work force.
3. Fathers whose wives SAH make more money than fathers whose wives WOH which means if the current group of WM's were to just quit working, the average income for their families would be lower than that of the current lot of SAHM's. Hence, their working not only improves their SES over what the average is for SAHM's but avoids a reduction in SES as well. People seem to ignore that 40% of WM's out earn their dh's when it comes to this debate. That IS significant.
These little tidbits are the reason I think this should not even be a debate. If you are not in position to positively impact your family's SES or it doesn't need improving and you want to SAH, go for it but it's not better for the kids in any general kind of way. It's just a lifestyle choice. If WOH does positively impact SES then it is a good thing because WOH/SAH in of themselves make so little difference. We're compaing preferences to actual benefits here and the actual benefits lie on the WM side of the equation. Yes there are exceptions as there always are but, on average, the current lot of WM's can say that they ARE positively impacting their children's lives via the income they bring into thier families even if someone else doesn't think they need to work.
4. There is little difference in the amount of parenting done in a household with a SAHP and one where both parent work. On averge couples where one SAH average 24 minutes a day more parenting than couples where both WOH. The actual time lost isn't anywhere near the time mom is away from home.
Edited 9/13/2003 3:40:17 PM ET by cyndiluwho
Have either of them done anything worth their parents money? I don't even know if they went to college and if they did...what for..."party 101?"
What's the oldest...22 now? I would *think* she would be something more worthwhile with her life then trying to compete with her younger sister in all the hottest fashions at the best clubs.
Get a job and stop living off of mom and dad's dime.
(sorry, my pet peeve about this whole high SES is that I don't want my girls to be standing on MY feet, when they have two perfectly good ones of their own. And I am not just talking the wealthy, such as the Hiltons either. I have seen too many friends never do anything with their lives because mommy and daddy already did...so why should they when they can take a ride for free?)
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