Do you think a SAHM should go back to...

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Do you think a SAHM should go back to...
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:46am

Do you think a SAHM should go back to work once the kids start school?



  • Absolutely, why shouldn't she? There's no reason why she shouldn't.
  • It's up to her & her family.
  • No, not really. What do the kids being in school have to do w/ her working?


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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:32pm
Sorry, I didn't look it up exactly. That is just some number that I heard that stuck in my head. It is still far more expensive than the gas in the US. We are very spoiled. You are right, it could be cheaper to carpool than to take the train, but even carpooling keeps down the amount of traffic because the cars hold more than just one person.
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:38pm
Your dh must make buku bux if 70k woudln't affect your lifestyle. I'm only 20k above that and my income drastically affects our lifestyle, however, I've already allowed for personal limitations making SAH better for particular individuals. My argument is that it's not, in general, better, whereas WOH does, in general, improve SES.

BTW, you don't have to hire a housekeeper just because you work full time. We have one but only because dh doesn't want to do housework. If he would do his half, we wouldn't need her. But even with a housekeeper and dcps my income greatly improves ours lifestyle. Like many WM's we do live in a better neighborhood and do enjoy a higher lifestyle because I WOH and that is good. While we do lose time, that's really not an issue because there was more than enough to start with. If you look at the time study I posted a while back you'll see that, on average, families with SAHP's are getting in a whopping 24 minutes a day more parenting than families with DWP's. The financial benefits of my WOH far outweigh 24 minutes a day more parenting.


Edited 9/13/2003 6:09:02 PM ET by cyndiluwho

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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:41pm
LOL, you don't need a SAH to make sure kids aren't left alone. Hence this is not a benefit of SAH.
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:42pm
Not SAH itself. Referring to making sacrifices to SAH.
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:43pm
Yes there are. That's why I like older, digested and peer reviewed studies. I take new ones with a grain of salt until they're heavily reviewed.
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:44pm
LOL. It's on the government website for all the world to see. I didn't think I had to point people to government data.
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:45pm
Go read the census data. It's available on line or at any public library. Those questions are answered there.
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:48pm
For the record, I don't base my life on data, just my debate stance. I didn't need a study to tell me that the increase in SES I provide for my family is significant and that it is good. I didn't need a study to tell me that if I SAH the amount of extra time I'd spend on my kids would not increase in proportion to the hours at home. i did not need a study to see that SAH/WOH in of themselves are just lifestyle chocies that make little difference. I did not need a study to tell me that kids never have needed 100% of our time but they sure do come in handy in a debate. I like to debate and I like to support my debate either with logical reasoning or data. It's pretty easy from my side of the debate.
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:54pm
No apologies necessary, I just happened to know the number so I thought I would mention it :-). I absolutely agree with you about carpooling.


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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:55pm
True, DD3 (14) leaves at 8:00 in the morning and gets home from school about 4:50. I leave for work right behind her and arrive home about 4:40. By only taking a 20-30 minute lunch break I am able to get in an 8 hour day and still be here when she leaves and when she gets home.

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