Do you think you should rely on a man?

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Do you think you should rely on a man?
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Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:45pm

I thought the following article was a good read.  It conveys an important message that whatever you decide to do, be prepared to support yourself because you can't count on a man to be there to take care of you.   The author found herself divorced, her ex quit his job and she had a very hard time making ends meet: 

No matter what you do in life, whether you aspire to career greatness or whether you embrace motherhood and housekeeping with open arms, or whether you find yourself doing both of these things at the same time, do it well. Do it with everything you have, with all your heart and with great gusto. But do it wisely.

Don't ever make the same mistake I did and put your life in someone else's hands. And always, always, ALWAYS have a Plan B.

Tell your daughters and your granddaughters and all the other girls in your life this: It's OK to fall in love and have babies and be the homemaker. It's also OK to go to law school or business school or medical school or to beauty school or trade school. In fact, it's more than OK if you want to do BOTH. Better than OK... it's the smart thing to do. Tell our girls that they really can have it all, but ALL on their terms.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-ball/mama-dont-let-your-babies_grow-up-to-be-housewives_b_3773133.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

This is something I feel very strongly about, you never know what life has in store for you so you should be prepared.  

What do you think of her advice? 

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 11:16pm

Bawahhaaaa....

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 11:47pm
Actually, she's using the word 100% correctly.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:15am

Love it, Jamblessed!  She is soooo not using the term correctly. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:38am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p>Love it, Jamblessed!  She is soooo not using the term correctly. </p>

Ah...you're reading my posts again. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 5:05pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Again, my relationships with my close friends is not dictated or even barely influenced/affected by our activity on FB.  <strong>FB is fluff.</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>IYO. Again, others have said how they use it as a communication tool for many things. Why have 850 friends if you are barely influenced/affected by FB? </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong><br /></strong></span></p><p style="text-align:left"></p>

I didn't say that none of my life was influenced/affected by FB. I said that "my relationships wtih my close friends".  

I use FB as a communication tool too sometimes.  I am, in some/many ways, affected/influenced by FB.  But the relationship with my closest friends would be pretty much the same without FB.  We'd share less fluffy stuff (like George Takei memes or bacon memes, lol) but that's not really part of our relationship.

Your posts might be right more often if you'd quit making stuff up.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 5:05pm

mortyswife wrote:
They were not questions about things I did not know already.</span></span></strong></p>

Why would you ask questions about things you already know?

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 5:07pm

mortyswife wrote:
I mock it because it makes no sense to have that many if you are not even interested in reading your own close personal friends status'.</span></strong></p>

I think you mock it because *I* said it - if it was said by jamblesmess or thardon, you wouldn't mock it.

What does my relationship with 840 other friends/acquaintances have to do with my relationship with my close personal friends? 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 5:09pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Taking the time to come here just to argue with strangers....sometimes the irony makes me lol.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Not really since I have checked my facebook quite a few times already today and read ALL the status'. Shrug.</span></strong></p>

I was away from my computer, and not really on my phone much, from about 5:30 yesterday until about two hours ago. There were hundreds and hundreds of things on my newsfeed in that time.  I've skimmed it .. but I didn't scroll all the way back to yesterday at 5:30.  I skimmed my notifications and read many of them, but not all.   I read the posts in which I was tagged.    I highly doubt my life is going to suffer because I didn't read every post and every notification. Shrug.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Sun, 09-22-2013 - 9:40am

savcal2011 wrote:
  I think you mock it because *I* said it - if it was said by jamblesmess or thardon, you wouldn't mock it.</p><p>What does my relationship with 840 other friends/acquaintances have to do with my relationship with my close personal friends? </p>

Did you really unapologetically use the insulting appellations "jamblessmess and thardon?"  Are you really that crass?  How disgusting.

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Sun, 09-22-2013 - 10:48am

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswife</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Taking the time to come here just to argue with strangers....sometimes the irony makes me lol.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Not really since I have checked my facebook quite a few times already today and read ALL the status'. Shrug.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I was away from my computer, and not really on my phone much, from about 5:30 yesterday until about two hours ago. There were hundreds and hundreds of things on my newsfeed in that time.  I've skimmed it .. but I didn't scroll all the way back to yesterday at 5:30.  I skimmed my notifications and read many of them, but not all.   I read the posts in which I was tagged.    I highly doubt my life is going to suffer because I didn't read every post and every notification. Shrug.</p>

You're online an awful lot talking about your life.  "Suffering" isn't a word morty would use to describe hers.