Do you think you should rely on a man?

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Do you think you should rely on a man?
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Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:45pm

I thought the following article was a good read.  It conveys an important message that whatever you decide to do, be prepared to support yourself because you can't count on a man to be there to take care of you.   The author found herself divorced, her ex quit his job and she had a very hard time making ends meet: 

No matter what you do in life, whether you aspire to career greatness or whether you embrace motherhood and housekeeping with open arms, or whether you find yourself doing both of these things at the same time, do it well. Do it with everything you have, with all your heart and with great gusto. But do it wisely.

Don't ever make the same mistake I did and put your life in someone else's hands. And always, always, ALWAYS have a Plan B.

Tell your daughters and your granddaughters and all the other girls in your life this: It's OK to fall in love and have babies and be the homemaker. It's also OK to go to law school or business school or medical school or to beauty school or trade school. In fact, it's more than OK if you want to do BOTH. Better than OK... it's the smart thing to do. Tell our girls that they really can have it all, but ALL on their terms.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-ball/mama-dont-let-your-babies_grow-up-to-be-housewives_b_3773133.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

This is something I feel very strongly about, you never know what life has in store for you so you should be prepared.  

What do you think of her advice? 

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:03pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I enjoy having friends both far and wide.  :)</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>That's great, so do I. What does that have to do with having friends nearby? </span></span></strong></p>

I was adding that there are benefits to having friends far and wide, even though it can be tough to see them on a regular basis...I still consider them to be real friends, genuine friends even if I don't seem on a regular basis and keep up with them through the internet in between times of visits.  They are all my friends.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:04pm

But again, blocked on facebook.

And?

I'm talking about my actions, not others..I don't care what you post or don't post on facebook because again...blocked on facebook.  What part of that is not clear?  

Nevermind...you know what I am saying and ignoring it. 

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:04pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I read all the time, always carry a book....well, my kindle now.  I have found that if something is important to me than I find a way.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>I would rather speak to someone than ignoring them by reading a book when I am out of my house someplace. </span></span></strong></p>

Well, that's a off the wall assumption since I didn't mention anything about ignoring someone.  Why are you assuming such a thing when it clearly hasn't been said?  More make believe land?

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:06pm

I was adding that there are benefits to having friends far and wide, even though it can be tough to see them on a regular basis...I still consider them to be real friends, genuine friends even if I don't seem on a regular basis and keep up with them through the internet in between times of visits.  They are all my friends.

Yes, it is harder to see out of state friends, I get that. I haven't seen some in many, many years. I am truly lucky that many of my closest friends ARE close to me though. The others we have relationships online and through letters and phone calls.

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:07pm

Well, that's a off the wall assumption since I didn't mention anything about ignoring someone.  Why are you assuming such a thing when it clearly hasn't been said?  More make believe land?

So where do you read your kindle when you are out of the house?

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:08pm

<<Wow, was that an attempt to insult?  Lost focus on the conversation again, more diversion and hoping that I remember that you didn't answer the questions.  Interesting.

Nope, unless you took it as one as not sure why you would unless you feel guilty that you don't take care of yourself, healthy wise.>>

Well this is interesting.   You took a comment as an insult when it clearly wasn't, the poster said it wasn't, apologized for any implication and you are still taking it as an insult....but when I say you tried to insult me by changing the subject off the conversation on to me personally,  I'm feeling guilty?  Wow, that was quite the spin and double standard, lol.   

<<I said try, read the posts.   Again, losing focus on the conversation.    All this diversion and no answer to the question, lol.

No, not really. I am not into the nagging.<<

Well...this diversion has been interesting, so funny.  The things you do to avoid answering questions based on double standards is always good for a bit of humor.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:09pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">But again, that was never, ever mentioned in this conversation.  Total make believe.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">No, it is not make believe. Bord said she would rather do gardening and reading then socializing. Go back and re-read the post.</span></strong></p>

No she didn't she said balance in her life....I'm not the one who needs to go and read some posts.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:10pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">But again, blocked on facebook. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">And?</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size:13px">I'm talking about my actions, not others..I don't care what you post or don't post on facebook because again...blocked on facebook.  What part of that is not clear?  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Nevermind...you know what I am saying and ignoring it. </span></span></strong></p>

I'm not sure what else to say about blocked on facebook and not unblocking.  What is it that you are having trouble with?

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:12pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I was adding that there are benefits to having friends far and wide, even though it can be tough to see them on a regular basis...I still consider them to be real friends, genuine friends even if I don't seem on a regular basis and keep up with them through the internet in between times of visits.  They are all my friends.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Yes, it is harder to see out of state friends, I get that. I haven't seen some in many, many years. I am truly lucky that many of my closest friends ARE close to me though. The others we have relationships online and through letters and phone calls.</span></span></strong></p>

So then you understand others who have friends who are out of state or far away?  Why would you say the things you did about bord not understanding then?

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:13pm

I'm not sure what else to say about blocked on facebook and not unblocking.  What is it that you are having trouble with?

No one said you would unblock. Sigh....

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