Do you think you should rely on a man?

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Do you think you should rely on a man?
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Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:45pm

I thought the following article was a good read.  It conveys an important message that whatever you decide to do, be prepared to support yourself because you can't count on a man to be there to take care of you.   The author found herself divorced, her ex quit his job and she had a very hard time making ends meet: 

No matter what you do in life, whether you aspire to career greatness or whether you embrace motherhood and housekeeping with open arms, or whether you find yourself doing both of these things at the same time, do it well. Do it with everything you have, with all your heart and with great gusto. But do it wisely.

Don't ever make the same mistake I did and put your life in someone else's hands. And always, always, ALWAYS have a Plan B.

Tell your daughters and your granddaughters and all the other girls in your life this: It's OK to fall in love and have babies and be the homemaker. It's also OK to go to law school or business school or medical school or to beauty school or trade school. In fact, it's more than OK if you want to do BOTH. Better than OK... it's the smart thing to do. Tell our girls that they really can have it all, but ALL on their terms.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-ball/mama-dont-let-your-babies_grow-up-to-be-housewives_b_3773133.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

This is something I feel very strongly about, you never know what life has in store for you so you should be prepared.  

What do you think of her advice? 

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:34pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">tanchick2013</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Jamblessed's friend? She might THINK Jamblessed is her friend, but she's wrong. Real friends don't get on message boards and post nasty opinions behind your back. Better to have half a dozen real friends than a couple dozen posers, IMO.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Posers? Bawahhhaaa...trying to get hip? lololol. So you would tell your friend you just puked a little in your mouth because she spent thousands of dollars on an online site to meet a man?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I really need to learn that block feature on facebook, there's apparently some stalkers that know my friends there more than I, Makes me shriek....  And well, puke inside my mouth a little..</p>

It's not rocket science, you go to the persons main page use the drop down box and then click block user.  Oh and you won't be able to see those who have already blocked you first.  :)

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:37pm

Shout out right back at ya, thardy!  And you know, my day was a good one but I missed a whole lot of cyber love here I guess, Darn!

 

 

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:47pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;tanchick2013&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;No, that is not what Jamblessed did.  She pretended to support her friend (that is, she lied to her friend about supporting her) and then got on this message board and said mean things about the friend's actions.  That is not the action of a friend.&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;So you would support someone and NOT say ANYTHING to ANYONE EVER? I doubt that very highly. Not even your dh? &amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;<strong>I would not say anything disrespectful about a friend's choices that don't affect me, don't harm her or anyone else, to anyone.  "Disrespectful" and "friend" don't really belong in the same sentence, IMO.</strong>&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>But it's okay to say disrespectful things about a person's choices if that person is not your friend?</p>

This!  Ivillage seriously needs a like button.

 

 

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:50pm
You know, Jamblessed, over the years you have said some pretty rotten things about my schooling choices for my kids. I've never said squat about yours. I've always figured people know their own situations and their own family's needs and wants better than anyone else. You've never extended me that same courtesy. Now you, who have been nothing but judgemental about my choices, are trying to say I've judged yours. That's absolutely untrue.
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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:54pm
You know, PKA, seeing that list of insults that TanChick had piled up on me today makes it all the more funny that she's acting all hurt because she thinks I insulted her, even after I explained I didn't mean to and apologized several times if she felt insulted by my comments. I feel like I just fell down a rabbit hole or something. Nothing is making sense here.
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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:56pm

Yes, I'd like to see the evidence of that too.....  Diversion perhaps, Poor thing..

 

 

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 9:59pm
Katy, Texas?

 

 

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 10:03pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Constant socializing is exhausting to me.   I only have two or three days a week I can make lunch, and one or two weekend nights to free.  If I were to fill up every one of those hours with socializing, I would not have time for other things that are important to me.  Going out to lunch is expensive.  Going out to dinner is expensive.  Throwing parties is expensive.   I do all those things on a regular basis, but I don't want to do them every day, which is pretty much what I would have to do to see all my friends on a weekly basis.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Sorry to hear that. All our get togethers are pretty cheap as we get together and help everyone out with the food an drinks. That is what friends do who want to spend time with one another on a regular basis. </span></strong></p><p style="text-align:left"><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Sounds like you make socializing too "formal" and "stiff". Informal food, drinks, laughing, fun is all you need. </span></span></p>

That's b/c you're a social butterfly.  ;)  Some others just call themselves that...

 

 

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 10:04pm

Thardy, that's true too. 

 

 

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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 10:05pm
Who else calls herself a social butterfly, Jamblessed?

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